Post # 1
We were due to get married this year but, of course, COVID. I live in Europe with my fiance but all of my family & friends are in the US. A wedding doesn’t feel like a wedding to me unless at least my family is there so we are waiting until all of this clears up but I’m getting less interested in the traditional wedding we were planning (at a church then reception at venue here near where we live) and thinking it might be fun to think a bit out of the box with our wedding.
We’re both in our late 30s, already live together, own a house, etc. so we aren’t in a crazy rush to get married so when the wedding actually happens we want to make it a fun, unique experience for our family and friends, especially as my family/friends will be traveling 9+ hours to come celebrate with us.
Our current ideas are get married on a yacht off of Croatia or rent a villa in Greece and have a wedding weekend party but curious to know what slightly unconventional wedding celebrations you had or considered that were fun and unique for you and your guests?
Post # 2
- Wedding: September 2021 - Australia
I mean both of those ideas sound amazing! I’d love to be asked to attend something like that.
the main issue as I understand it is how much (or rather, little) leave Americans seem to be entitled to, and the cost may be prohibitive for some of your guests. Even if they can afford it, they may not choose to spend that money on your event. In the abstract though, it sounds fantastic!
Post # 3
As your guests are going to have to travel regardless of what you do – I’m all for the more unconventional ideas! It would be different if your whole family lived in Ohio and you did too and you wanted to get married on a yacht in Croatia- that would be asking a lot- but they will be committing to international travel might as well make it fun.
I have 2 “dream” wedding ideas – 1 is to get married on my dads fishing boat with no more than 5 people, and the other is to rent out.a rooftop bar/pub, have a very quick ceremony in the pub, and then just have a great night with my friends and family so I’m already in the unconventional boat
Post # 4
Personally, I’d get married now in a live streamed ceremony and have a delayed celebration in the US at some future date. I wouldn’t postpone marriage, which in this uncertain time also comes with many legal benefits and protections, for example, inheritance, decision making in case of serious illness and more. In addition, who knows when or if your family and friends will feel comfortable traveling on a plane again. Financially, many people, including those who still have jobs, will be focused on making up for lost time and a vaccine may not be fully protective.
Post # 5
Like weddingmaven said, are you open into having a just the two of you for now and having a second ceremony and reception later with everyone when the situation improves?
Post # 6
@weddingmaven: Well, marriage doesn’t always benefit everyone, with me, I was really close to losing Medicaid had I been married and no longer be able to afford my medication, but that changed now that I am getting on disability and will have Medicare as well as going to a lower paying, but more sustainable job anyways. Marriage doesn’t always benefit everyone. I say, if you are fine holding off marriage, it is fine and your choice.
Post # 7
Thanks all for the thoughts! Where we live marriage doesn’t confer a ton of benefits so we’re honestly not in a huge rush for it (we have pretty much all of the rights as domestic partners).
I think realistically if we still can’t plan a wedding in 2021, we’ll just go to the town hall and get married the two of us (just because I don’t want to wait forever) but if we can plan something at some point next year, I’m thinking a vila somewhere in Europe might be the best way to do it to make it fun for our families as well. Funny enough, when we originally started planning our wedding, my fiance’s family were surprised we weren’t doing a destination wedding (they assumed we would because I’m not from here). My family is committed to traveling to wherever (of course once traveling is possible) so having it in Greece or maybe even Spain would be a good way to create a unique wedding experience I think all of our family members would be happy with.