(Closed) slow dance only reception HELP!

posted 4 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
11657 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

daniwilk2:  it seems a little odd to me to have those dances and not dancing in general – but then again, I’ve only been to one wedding that didn’t have dancing and they had no dancing (and the reception was held in the backyard at DH’s grandparents cottage) and was basically a BYOB cookout and was a weird (but fun) wedding all around.

Post # 3
1913 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Dallas, TX

daniwilk2:  Yeah I think it would be weird. But it’s your wedding so do whatever you wamt!

Post # 4
719 posts
Busy bee

I struggled a bit with reception music because I didn’t want the loud crazy DJ or the cheesy wedding band.  In general I wanted easy listening, danceable music.  I ended up hiring a band and just realizing that I need to let go a bit.

What I came to realize is that the dancing is what keeps people engaged in the event after their attention is no longer on the meal.  Otherwise, it’s very easy for people to get bored and slip out after dinner.  Also, by the time dinner is over people will have been sitting for a while, drinking for a while, and will need an outlet for their energy.  I came to realize that the dance floor and the dancing is important and you can probably easily tell your DJ to please just keep it a bit lighter…no rap, rock, pop, hip-hop, top 40. 

The dance floor doesn’t need to be so big that it’s the majority of the room, but I think you have a dance floor, do your dances, and let others do a little dancing too, if they choose.

Post # 5
431 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

It may seem odd but that is what we are doing. We are having a dj play lovesongs, Christian songs,  or a few other faves Thoroughout the reception. However, our space is small and not much room for a dance floor. We will have our dance when we are introduced and will invite everyone to join in if they want. Mainly this is to appease my mom. 

My my father passed away so there won’t be a father daughter dance.

i was at a wedding recently that had dancing after dinner but the couple had their dance as soon as they came in. I thought it went over very well so I was happy I was doing the same.

Post # 6
66 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

daniwilk2:  I don’t think it is weird at all. Do your 2 dances (or 3 if mother/son), cut your cake, toss your bouquet/garter, whatever else you want to do and exclude what doesn’t work for you. I mean, weddings come in all shapes and sizes. Enjoy your day with or without a large dance floor. Doesn’t mean you still can’t enjoy the special moments like father/daughter dance or first dance if you opt for no dance floor.

Post # 7
2511 posts
Sugar bee

I think you can do that if you want.

We’re having a small 20 person wedding with no dancing. Fiance still wants us to have a “first dance” to a song he picked out. So we’ll most likely have a private slow dance in our hotel room later.

So no pictures, or people watching but it’ll be romantic. We’ve done that once years ago before he deployed and we were staying in a hotel because he was stationed far from where I lived.

Post # 8
992 posts
Busy bee

I think it could be fine, just make sure your guests have at least an idea ahead of time what to expect. With just a 30-person wedding, it’s unlikely that they’re expecting a big dance party anyways, so let those closest to you know the general order of events (dinner, cake cutting, 1st dance, grand exit, whatever) and leave it to them to spread the word.

I suppose an example of what not to do would be: I went to a wedding a few years back where the reception was held in the basement of the church. After dinner & cake cutting, they announced “follow us for the dancing!”…so all 100+ guests trekked out of the church to the school/gym next door. They had created a small dance floor in the gym (some streamers & paper lanterns + a disco ball & lights), hit play on computer that was set up and did their first dance. The song ended, and they left. Completely. While everyone stood around the now-empty gym in silence wondering what came next. Eventually, the mother of the bride ushered everyone back to the chuch, where people grabbed whatever stuff they’d left at their tables and left.

Post # 9
1887 posts
Buzzing bee

I think it could be okay. With that small of a wedding people probably wouldn’t be too comfortable hopping up on the dance floor anyway.  I just wouldn’t let it drag out too long.  People may get bored watching you guys dance when they don’t even get to dance. 

Post # 10
96 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I went to a wedding where this was the case. The bride and groom did their dance, and then there was the father-daughter dance. It was a morning wedding with lunch reception. There was a reception programme which outlined the afternoon’s events. And that guided that guests. I think there was the cocktail, then guests were seated, speeches/toasts , lunch, 3 courses, cutting of the cake, gifts presented to parents of bride and groom, the dances, thank you from the bride and groom, and that was it basically.  It ended by 5 pm. There was music throughout, but no actual dancing. 


But your wedding is what you make it. If you don’t want a DJ why not have a playlist? A small get together like yours may not require much hyping up for a DJ. Why not have a playlist with enough songs to last maybe 2 hrs. At my wedding dancing queen and macarena played about 3 times because they were crowd favourites.

Sometimes all you need really are your man, your maids( BM) and a few other friends and you have a good time and no big dance floor needed.

Post # 12
243 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

daniwilk2:  we are doing this! i never thought of it being weird until i saw this post haha. We will have our first dance and play upbeat music after if people want to dance, if not no big deal. I dont think you need a huge dancefloor or a DJ to have a first or father daughter dance. Do what you want!

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