Slow progress relationship – do I leave or stay?

posted 2 months ago in Relationships
Post # 16
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434 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2018 - City Hall

Time to leave and move on. For real this time.

There has been zero progress, he told you he does not see marriage in the future. He has told you time and time again there’d be progress and there is none. You want marriage and children, find someone who wants these too. Two years and his family doesn’t even know about you, huge red flag bee. You may love him, but you deserve better. 

Head for splitsville and find a man who will show you real love. 

Post # 17
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122 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2020 - City, State

As someone of Indian origin, I’ve seen plenty of Asians do this where they date people from a different background (usually white), don’t tell their parents anything and then defend themselves using “cultural differences, strict parents” as an excuse. I can tell you, no matter how strict or conversative his family are, if he were serious about you or wanted to marry you he would have told them. 

No point staying with someone who isn’t serious about your relationship, you deserve better.

Post # 18
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290 posts
Helper bee

I know of two slow relationships. One turned out very successful and the other was a waste of time.

One of my friends used to date an East Indian guy. He only introduced her to his very close friends and roommates. She was a secret. Years later, she found out that he was engaged to be married. His parents picked a bride for him. He was to study and then return to India and get married to her. So, that’s what happened.

In the second story, this girl and the guy were from different nationalities. The girl’s mother was a racist. So, the girl openly told the guy that she couldn’t introduce him to her mother because of her descrimination. She introduced him to all her friends thoughand ressured him about the raltionship in other ways. Slowly, she introduced him as a friend to the mother. It took the mother some years to like this guy while the relationship secretly blossomed. They are married now.

The difference between the above raltionships is the level of honesty and openness of hat is slowing the realtionship and the persistence of making it work. Do you have those in your relationship? 

 

Post # 19
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10032 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

Jen00 :  

It’s not you, it’s me.

Oh, Honey Bee.  That line is so old, archeologists have found it in hieroglyphics at ancient ruins.

Post # 20
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121 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2029

Nothing good ever comes out after a person says “its me, not you”, just sayin…

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