- 5 years ago
I’m a LOOONG time lurker of the Waiting boards (like about 6 months lol)
Anyway, I feel it’s dues time to introduce myself, and hope to get some much needed reassurance and advice that many of you seem so great at! 🙂
I apologize for the lengh, and incessant rambling-this post is not very organized, sorry lol!
Here’s about me and my SO:
I’m 26 (will be 27 in Jan). SO is 32 (will be 33 right after Christmas).
We have been together for just over 2.5 years (July 2011). When we met, I was working 2 dead end jobs and living with my parents. SO was finishing up his internship with a sports team so he could get his degree (which he obtained right about the time we met). He then worked a dead end job and was living for free at a friend’s house.
We’ve come a LONG way. July 2012 after we’ve been together for just shy of a year, we moved just over an hour south of my parents and his friend’s into our first apartment.
We moved June 2013 to another slightly cheaper apartment to save some money.
We are now working better jobs. I work as an Army/DoD civilian, and SO gets to work with his best friend from high school and his younger sister in a small family business.
TBH, I wasn’t really thinking alot about proposals until Easter of this year…
We went to my Dad’s side of the family. We had a great time. After, my Mom calls me to tell me that my grandma and my aunts were talking about us… They were bugging her on info on when they think we’ll get married. WTF?!
Here’s some history on my family. I have 2 older cousins, one married with 2 kids. One just got ENGAGED LAST WEEK (SERIOUSLY?! I’m SOOO mad at this one, this is BOTH their 2nd marriages, there’s 4 kids involved, and they have been together LESS TIME than SO and I!)
Both my younger cousins got married last year, and my younger brother has been married for 4 years now with 2 kids.
I’m THE ONLY ONE beside my 10 year old cousin that is NOT MARRIED or have kids. To say that I’ve been getting questions since has been putting it lightly.
SO has 2 older siblings both married for over 10 years and with kids. SO is next in line in his family too.
I think what I’m most upset about is that I was doing SO GOOD about waiting lately. After I threw a bunch of fits this last summer (I know, something I’m not proud of) about getting engaged, it came down to not that he’s not ready, but he couldn’t afford a ring. See, he has about 30k in student loan debt, a motorcycle and car payment, and about 3k in credit card debt. Yes, he make a decent (not great) living, but after paying rent and all his bills, he has NOTHING left over to put away to savings. Now, we don’t want a diamond ring, we decided on a Tanzanite (a lot more rare, and more beautiful than a plain diamond in my opinion). However, since he can’t put anything in savings, he ended up selling his pistol for $500, and we went and BOUGHT A RING. This was LAST MONTH. It’s a cheap, but beautiful ruby and diamond ring that was only $150, and will stand as a stand in until he can get a better job and afford my Tanzanite.
So, this brings me to now.
We’ve been together 2.5 years, living together for 1.5. We have my dog, and our puppy we adopted together.
He’s had the ring, hidden in our apartment for a month now. I know it’s coming soon, but I’m now out of patience, especially since my cousin is engaged and everyone is talking about them. I REALLY was hoping to get engaged on Thanksgiving or before, so this could be OUR holidays to celebrate. Now I feel like no one will be happy for us… 🙁
I’m not sure what I’m looking for here, suggestions on how to be more patient (I’ve already tried Mr. Bee’s plan.) or anything else to get my mind off engagement. Does anyone have any experience on having a family member get engaged when you were hoping it would be your turn next? I’m really struggling here…
I think it’s happening on Christmas…I hope…
Cheers to any of you that have read this far, I really appreciate it!!!