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So I have been engaged since July 9th and we have not set a date. Not in any rush and neither of us want a big wedding. A little backstory: I am 25 and my FI is 39. Yes, big age difference but after almost 4 years together it works for us 🙂 of course when you date older you run into him having been married before. He has been married twice – first time it was a young and stupid decision and the second he rushed into it. So he has had the big wedding and good thing I don’t like big weddings 🙂
I didn’t want to do courthouse because I want family and friends there and I want that aisle and officiant. We both have very small families and not crazy amounts of friends. We do have a huge backyard and it would be great for a wedding!
So I am looking for any advice/tips/experiences for a total do it yourself wedding. I would probably cater the food and have a bartender (maybe my dad and brother split the shift) but everything else would be me 🙂
Post # 2
I was just married October 4th and we had it in his mom’s backyard 🙂 it turned out great! We had about 50 people there (close friends and family) and catered BBQ food. Our theme was country and we decorated everything ourselves. Mason Jars, centerpieces, the arch, we rented hay, and all the tables/chairs from ABA DABA. It turned out GREAT! Everyone loved it. Our entire wedding with the dress, photographer, food, rental equipment, decorations cost us 5,000 dollars. We planned everything in a little under six months.
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sweetdee89: I thought I’d pass this along, in case you haven’t seen/heard of it.
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sweetdee89: I thought I’d pass this along, in case you haven’t seen/heard of it. http://www.younghouselove.com/wedding-album/
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Post # 6
My mom remarried last summer and had a backyard wedding. She had the food catered, and hired a bartender (co-worker of my brother at the restuarant he worked at). But other than that we did it all between the 2 of us. Made fans for the guests (Since it was July in Texas). Had a cocktail hour before the ceremony with cheeses and meats and little snacks. My mom originally wanted the wedding inside in the formal living room off the entrance and was worried guests would come in late during her walk down the stairs so we moved it to the backyard.
I made some wooden signs, and we got big plants with yellow flowers, hung globe lights from the trees, rented some chairs, etc.. Here’s the ceremony space:
Edit: It was definitely a TON of work. I ran around so much that day that I honestly didn’t even enjoy the wedding like everyone else. Consider that before asking family to bartend, even if they say it’s not problem. Now that I’m the one getting married my mom and I decided we’d rather pay for convenience this time.
Post # 7
Keep it simple but it should still feel like a wedding. Also don’t put too much pressure on yourself even though it’s casual you’re still the bride. Just to let you know you can hire wedding planners just for day of service, basically you plan the whole thing yourself and just hire a coodinator to put everything together the day of your wedding so you can sit backa and relax (way less expensive than a full time planner its what im doing). You could probably also find a cheap bartender so your dad and brother can also enjoy themselves. Also if you want a casual wedding dress look at bridesmaids dresses because most of thema are available in white and ivory, plus saves a lot of money.