Post # 1
My mom’s close friend offered to host a bridal shower for me. My aunt is already hosting a “family” shower so this friend offered to host the “friend” shower, which is so nice and generous and I’m really excited for it. The only thing is I can only think of 5 girlfriends to invite that are also invited to the wedding. I have other close friends but they live out of state and wont be able to come. Is 5 people too small? I’m a little embarrassed I guess about not having that many close girlfriends.
Post # 2
I think a small shower like that sounds like a lot of fun. Much more intimate than the usual!
Post # 3
oh good. I guess maybe since I’ve only been to one shower and it was pretty large I don’t really know what to expect/what the norm is.
Post # 4
Why don’t you just invite the 5 girls to the one family shower? Make it a friends and family event.
Post # 5
I call this quality over quantity. Having 5 close friends that truly care about you is way better than x number that don’t. Don’t feel embarrassed I’m sure you’ll have a blast!
Post # 6
I think it’s perfect. You can spend quality time with them instead of having a gaggle of women with whom you never manage to get a word in edgewise
Post # 7
Thanks so much! This makes me feel better, I think it will be a great time.
Post # 8
I just wanted you to know I’m in a similar boat! My aunt had already offered to host a shower for me and I was just planning on making that my main one and invite aunts/grandmas/cousins/etc from both sides. Then my cousins on the other side of my family said they really wanted to throw me a shower more for our relatives on that side of the family. So it actually works out pretty well- instead of one largish shower, which might be more of a burden to host, I can do two smaller showers which I am actually way more comfortable with. One shower will be around 10-ish people (maybe!) so I think your small shower is just perfect. Also, last year my mom and I threw a shower for her best friend’s daughter and we had around 7 people come. It was nice, we had a great time, and it was kind of like a girl’s hangout- very laid back and relaxed.
Post # 9
We’re not doing the exact same thing per se, but I am having a big bridal shower (next weekend!) at my grandmother’s for both sides of the family plus the bridesmaids. Then a couple weeks before the wedding we’re having the bachelorette party in a nearby city with the bridesmaids, a few friends, and maybe some cousins if they want to come to both, but realistically it’s gonna be like… The 4 bridesmaids and 3 other people lol.
I think it’s great, I’m looking forward to doing typical shower things with the family and then just hanging out and having fun with the girls (and our hotel has free cookies, perfect!)
Post # 10
5 isn’t too small. It’s all about seeing your friends togther in one place! I think it sounds like fun!
I’m in a similar boat. I think 12 are invited to mine but who knows, maybe fewer can make it! Whatevs. I’ll just be happy to get to talk to everyone.
Post # 11
My sister just hosted my bridal shower a couple weeks ago. We only had 7 guests – spanning from their late 20s to 70s – and it was perfect! We visited, had desserts, and did a craft together. A smaller group is more intimate and cozy 🙂
Post # 12
But the big question- do you expect them to give you cards?
Just kidding…5 sounds perfectly intimate and fun!
Post # 13
Personally I would just combine the two. My bridesmaids are planning a shower. FMIL asked if I want a separate one for their family or just family and I said no lets just have it all together.
editing to add that I don’t think it’s too small just kind of unnecessary to separate the showers if you can host a few more ppl at the family shower.
Post # 14
Mine was a couples shower that had 10 people including DH and I. Nothing wrong with that, especially since the wedding had only 30 guests. The Maid/Matron of Honor hosted it like a dinner party and it was classy and free of embarrassing shower games.
Hoping that whoever hosts my baby shower will do something similar. I prefer to keep things small and simple.