(Closed) Small budget brides – worried about wedding looking “cheap”?? Or just me????

posted 11 years ago in Money
  • poll: My dessert only reception - bad idea????

    YES!! Get someone to cater heavy hors d'oeuvres AT LEAST.

    Stop being a ninny and stick to your original plan.

  • Post # 32
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Don’t even worry about it! My Fiance and I are on the same budget, and we’re doing a pot-luck style dinner, served buffet-style, which helped us out immensley! Your guests will love the deserts, and, since you made sure to specify what type of food was going to be there, they’ll have plently of time to eat something beforehand, so they won’t get hungry. Don’t worry about the DJ, it’s not his job to worry about the food. Just sit back and enjoy your day, I know how stressful a small budget wedding can be, and I’ve only just started!

    Post # 33
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    I have two thoughts:

    1. Like Querida mentioned, if you do the dessert buffet elegantly then it will be elegant (not cheap). Through the ocurse of my wedding I found that it’s not really what you do but how you do. I think ttat what you have planned will be gorgeous and work out nicely.

    2. One thing to think of though: $5000 even thought it’s a small budget for a wedding, usually will allow you to serve some form of a meal (even if it is just heavy hor d’eurves). Where is the rest of the $ going? The reason why I’m asking is because if you’re spending a lot of money (reltatively) for some of the other budgetted items (florals, dress, limo, honeymoon) then you could still end up looking cheap. For example, I went to a wedding and I knew the bride (because she kept talking about it) spent about $3000 on gorgeous centerpieces and had a cash bar. I thought they were incredibly cheap since they could have went with less elaborate centerpieces and afforded to provide at least some libations.

    Post # 34
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    I think that since you specified DESSERT RECEPTION TO FOLLOW, that everyone should come prepared to have some light snacks following the ceremony.  I went to a reception very similar to yours a few weeks ago.  They had the more dinner-like items on one side, and a separate display with the desserts.  She made each of their favorite dessert items, mini-brownies, mini-cupcakes, some family recipies for cookies, and bought a variety of other sweets from a local owned bakery.

    It was wonderful, everyone got their sweet-fix, and she didn’t break the budget! I’d say it was a win-win situation!

    Post # 36
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2010 - Mr. P's Grandparents’ Ranch

    I have a very small budget too!!  I think your idea is totally good!! Don’t worry!!

    Post # 37
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    You put dessert reception on the invite, and you’re having a late ceremony, right? You did everything right and you have NO reason to be ashamed. Your DJ is just being obnoxious!

    Post # 38
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    I think your wedding sounds like’s it’s going to be great. I love the idea of a desert reception… in retrospect I wish I had done something similar. I’m glad that you’re adding a few non-desert items as well though, because not everyone shares my raging sweet tooth. Cheese, crackers/bread, small sandwiches or other horderve-y type stuff is a good idea. It’s going to be awesome and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

    Post # 39
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    Bumble Beekeeper

    @hcritton – OMG potluck reception in lieu of gifts? You just spoke my dreams… the ones I’d never realized I had!!!

    sigh – pretty sure J will NEVER go for it though. He’s got his heart set on plated dinners, my groomzilla does…

    Post # 40
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    We are having heavy hors d’oeuvres, but mostly that’s because it’s what we wanted.  And we are providing only one alcoholic beverage, because food is a bigger priority than alcohol to us.  But honestly, the comments we have gotten from people who know about our plans are more along the lines of, “Why are you doing so much?”, rather than, “Why are you being so cheap?”  Basically, if people care about you, they will enjoy your wedding, even if it’s punch and cake only.  If they do not, no amount of free food will cause them to enjoy it.  So go with what you can afford, and within that with what you like.

    Post # 41
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    @laylabelle – that sounds just fantastic, and definitely not cheap. I wouldn’t have even mentioned anything if I knew your real cost was probably closer to $3000, that sounds right for what you’re doing. I think your guests are going to have a wonderful time, and to be honest providing free alcohol is sometimes preferred to a meal. 😉

    Post # 42
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I think a desert reception is a great idea for your budget. And its good that you put it later in the evening. I went to one desert reception where they had it at 6:30 and didn’t tell anyone it would just be cookies and hot chocolate. So though yours isn’t necessarly around dinner time its, its good you gave peopel the heads up about it. And it sounds like you are going to have a variety of things and the ability to create a nice display so sounds perfect to me.

     

    Post # 44
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    Busy bee

    I think it will be great, and I don’t think anyone will say it’s “cheap”. We have a TINY budget as well, and I don’t care if we end up with a cake and punch reception. People will just be happy to join us on our wedding day!

    Post # 45
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    Our budget is $5000 as well, and I say you should do what-the-heck-ever feels good and right to you. After all – it’s YOUR wedding!

    We’ve got a small, intimate guest list (under 60 people), so that has allowed us to have a buffet reception at one of the nicest hotels in the city. It also helps that I found the dress of my dreams – brand new – on eBay for $117 after currency conversion and shipping! Laughing Now that we’re in the home stretch (43 days and counting!) I’m trying desperately not to break the bank. So far, we’re under-budget (don’t ask me how, I have NO idea Surprised) and hoping to stay that way!

    Best of luck to all us small-budget brides!

    Post # 46
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    Busy bee

    Dessert receptions rock! It’s like the best food at weddings typically and yet no one eats it cause they are too stuffed. So you totally have the right idea. Just make sure to mention it in the invitation. SOmething ike “dessert reception to follow”. That way people dont arrive hungry.

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