- 4 years ago
- Wedding: June 2015 - On the Beach in Negril, Jamaica
My fiance and I want to get married in the rainforest in Costa Rica, but its looking like his family won’t be able to make it. I know it is important to them to be there and would like for them to be. For paper work reasonings we would like to legally get married before we leave in case anthing happens while we are overseas ziplining and what not. The wedding won’t be legal here in the states for 3 months, if we wait until Costa Rica. Instead of going to the courthouse our minister recommended maybe a small ceremony. We were thinking maybe a small backyard ceremony that everybody could attend and then we could go to CR for OUR ceremony and formal pictures. I’d wear my dress for the vows, some pictures then change to a short white dress for the remainder of the evening. That way it can be put away and cleaned for CR. Especially since we’re going to do it anyway, might as well invite them too. My mom has had an issue since I cancelled the big venue. First, saying that it wouldn’t be a “wedding”, since we would already be married, but to us, it would be. I’m just trying to keep the families involved instead of being what she considers “selfish” by not caring whether or not any of them can come. By doing it this way, we wouldn’t have to worry about having a reception when we returned from our ceremony/honeymoon. I’m feeling some heavy guilt at this point, when all I’m trying to do is keep everyone happy and involved.
Should I feel bad about wanting to still have the personal exotic wedding that we want?