Post # 1
So I am having a small ceremony and reception at the same location, in the same smallish room. It will seat 50 total, I am planning on 30.
The question is how to seat everyone, I can do 5 tables of 6 and then a sweatheart table. Tables of 8 makes it very awkward, I have a mix of old (elderly) parents and aunts and uncles and friends my own age ( which isn’t exactly young either 🙂 and then a kids table.
Would 2 banquet tables one seating 14 and the other 10 and then a kids table (my kdis are teens and will be allowed to invite a couple friends each) be weird? I feel like that would be the best for conversation and not isolate us from our friends. We would make a point of spending time visiting the older persons table/people.
I perfer the small table look and can divide up the group so that everyone will basically be seated with people the know, but that leaves us alone which seems boring when the reception is basically the meal.
Post # 3
If you went with smaller tables, could you sit at one of them, rather than a sweetheart table? Are there a few close people (i.e. parents, siblings) who you could sit with?
Personally I am not a fan of the long banquet tables as it can cause people to be stuck between two conversations.
Post # 4
I’m having a small ceremony and reception as well (45 people) and was thinking that 3 or so longer tables with one sweetheart table would be the best bet. My only worry is that if we have three tables, that they’d end up naturally diving themselves up by my family, his family, and friends, and we don’t want that – I’m not planning on doing seating arrangements for 45 people, they’re all adults. Not yet sure.
Post # 5
Ours is smallish. We are estimating anythwere from 45-60 people.
We are doing a 14 person head table and roughly 8 tables of 5 [they arent big round table, they are a tad smaller], that seats 54.. if for some reason we have more than that , we’ll just add a chair to each table.
Post # 6
We had a small wedding, though not quite as small as yours. I would just go with smaller tables if it means the groups “fit” better (meaning you aren’t stuck pairing great grandma Lois with your college BFF Jane). We had uneven numbers of people at each of our tables, ranging from six to nine, as it was more important to us that each table had a good time rather than us cramming the maximum at each table. We had a sweethearts table as well and I liked that a lot. A DW I went to with only 28 guests or so had a sweethearts table too and they just mingled with everyone when they weren’t eating. Despite having more guests than you, we had plenty of opportunities to mingle at every table.
I think the long banquet tables look good in photos and sound good in theory, but I don’t think it increases the amount of socializing since you really only will interact with your immediate left/right and the three people in front of you (front left, front center, front right). As PP noted, it does cause people to be stuck in multiple conversations.
Post # 7
I totally agree with the multiple conversation thing.
I think the smaller groups of people that gel well in groups of 6 is probably the best bet, we can then mingle easily and do a sweetheart table. I think that will probably end up being what happens, I would prefer round tables but can’t remember if the venus has those or just the rectangle ones, either way it will all be fine.
It seems to be our job as brides to sweat the small stuff, and I excell at that.