(Closed) Small Destination Wedding…Were your parents there?

posted 6 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

hi, we havent had our Destination Wedding yet.  Have you asked Fiance why he wouldn’t want his parents there?

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I would just talk to him and ask him about it. Shrugging shoulders isn’t really a clear answer, so I would try to get him to communicate a little more clearly to get his feelings on it.

 

My Fiance and I went through this too. He didn’t care if it was just going to be the two of us, and I wanted some guests to attend.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

And to answer your question about if parents attended…..we have not had our Destination Wedding yet either. Our mom’s are coming, but that is it. We have about 20 guests attending.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

We are having a small Destination Wedding in St Thomas in Oct about 16 people or so and our parents will be there. Personally I can’t imagine doing it w/o them there.

It sounds like it’s very important to you! I would tell him that having your parents there is important and I am sure he will understand that! Good luck….keep us posted!

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

“I am so used to us agreeing on everything, this is kind of weird!”

Aw welcome to coupledom!  I hope your expectations aren’t that you’ll always agree on everything from here on out.  Dr. John Gottman says 90% of conflict in marriage goes unresolved (meaning you won’t agree).  It’s all in how you deal with the conflict that will ensure a long happy marriage!  So yes, your Fiance might want to elaborate a little more on why he feels that otherwise you don’t really know what to say from there.

I hope you can start a conversation with him, so how would I approach it?  I would ask him when is a good time to talk about wedding stuff (usually my Fiance wasn’t too receptive if I started talking about it as soon as we came home from work), then just bring it up.  Express what is important to you, what would make you happiest, if he’d feel weird if you had guests and he didn’t?

My Destination Wedding in Jackson Hole did have FI’s parents and my mom.  My dad has cancer and wouldn’t be up for travelling (although if he did have a good 24 hours the venue was 3 miles from an airport).  However that was cancelled due to my father’s health which is declining.

Now we plan to elope.  We may only invite 2 guests – FI’s parents.  They have been to the area last summer, they already have their passports, and they don’t have anything big issues that are holding them back (illnesses, new babies, job losses with my family).

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

We had a small Destination Wedding and only my sister and DH’s sister were invited. A. because I don’t have a good relationship with my parents and B. DH’s parents wouldn’t have wanted to travel that far. With that said I understand where your FH is coming from. The fact that it was just us and our sisters (we are both extremely close to our sisters) made it such a relaxed special experience I do not regret the decision to not have anyone else there. If you want your parents at the wedding then go ahead have them come but if he doesn’t then respect his decision.

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