Post # 1
hi there. we are eloping to Sicily in May and have a small intimidate group of 5-7 close friends who we invited join us. A friend I was once close with, but honestly may have spend 2 hours with over the last 2years was asking questions about the location etc and the next thing I know she saying it sounds like a great vacation and inviting herself. She is in her 40s, single and I have heard her speak negatively of her closest friends weddings and marriages. I’ve traveled with her before and found it wasn’t enjoyable and I did not intend to have her come. I politely stated (all via text as I was working) that we had a limit number allowed for the elopement package and didn’t want to plan a full destination wedding but that we would have a reception for extended family and friends when we got home. She then pried about who was coming which I tried to be vague as it’s not really her place to judge nor did i want to make her feel worse. Yesterday I was in the chair getting my hair done and our stylist let me know she was in recently and was very salty she wasn’t invited and complaining about me and how I invited a friend (who lives in London but speak to daily) over her. I feel quite annoyed. Should I have handled this differently or should I speak to her?
Post # 2
She is being super rude and you handled this very well. I wouldn’t bring up what your stylist told you, I would be the bigger person and ignore it. But I would probably start to re-evaluate what kind of friend this person is.
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2018 - Location
Your wedding, your guest list. Especially for an intimate elopement! This isn’t like you’re inviting 152 and are adding to 153. She is the one being super rude and, frankly, embarrassing herself.
Post # 4
She needs to get over it!
Post # 5
She needs to get over it, and honestly on your end I wouldn’t give it another thought. It’s incredibly rude and tacky to pry about someone’s wedding details or fish for an invite….if you wanted to invite her you would have invited her from the get-go. It sounds like you guys aren’t even close so I would continue with your plans. Anyone who is going to be like that, and bitch about you behind your back, isn’t someone worth stressing over.
Post # 6
Honestly it sounds like you made the right call not inviting her in the first place. Sorry your friend is reacting this way to your decision but don’t let her make you feel like the bad guy!
Post # 7
- Wedding: February 2020 - Breckenridge, CO
It seems to me that not inviting her was a great call. She sounds like drama and you don’t need that on your wedding day. Just ignore her rude comments and enjoy yourself in Sicily!!
Post # 8
absolutely! I would to tell her that my wedding isn’t just a vacation I planned for her but there’s no need to stink to her level. Thank you!
Post # 9
thank you! Exactly why I didn’t want to deal with her b&tching and complaining in another country 😂
Post # 10
Oh gosh! You definitely did the right thing. I’ve had friends like that and all you can do is let them go!! It’s your wedding enjoy yourself!
Post # 11
Your friend is beyond tacky. I will never understand people who think it’s okay to invite themselves to any event but especially a wedding. You handled it well and if she was butt hurt that she wasn’t invited well that’s on her. Then she gossiped about you to your mutual stylist. Again all I can say is tacky. If I were you anytime I dealt with her it would be with a long handled spoon.
Post # 12
Nah, you’ve done all the right things. Stay strong if she starts up again. It’s your small intimate family/friends wedding ( I still am amazed that these get called ‘ elopements’ lol) so keep it that way!