Small elopement

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
3492 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

She is being super rude and you handled this very well. I wouldn’t bring up what your stylist told you, I would be the bigger person and ignore it. But I would probably start to re-evaluate what kind of friend this person is.

Post # 3
1496 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Location

Your wedding, your guest list. Especially for an intimate elopement! This isn’t like you’re inviting 152 and are adding to 153. She is the one being super rude and, frankly, embarrassing herself. 

Post # 4
4594 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

She needs to get over it!

Post # 5
7567 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

She needs to get over it, and honestly on your end I wouldn’t give it another thought. It’s incredibly rude and tacky to pry about someone’s wedding details or fish for an invite….if you wanted to invite her you would have invited her from the get-go. It sounds like you guys aren’t even close so I would continue with your plans. Anyone who is going to be like that, and bitch about you behind your back, isn’t someone worth stressing over.

Post # 6
420 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

Honestly it sounds like you made the right call not inviting her in the first place. Sorry your friend is reacting this way to your decision but don’t let her make you feel like the bad guy! 

Post # 7
105 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2020 - Breckenridge, CO

It seems to me that not inviting her was a great call. She sounds like drama and you don’t need that on your wedding day. Just ignore her rude comments and enjoy yourself in Sicily!! 

Post # 10
367 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2019

Oh gosh! You definitely did the right thing. I’ve had friends like that and all you can do is let them go!! It’s your wedding enjoy yourself!

Post # 11
131 posts
Blushing bee

Your friend is beyond tacky. I will never understand people who think it’s okay to invite themselves to any event but especially a wedding. You handled it well and if she was butt hurt that she wasn’t invited well that’s on her. Then she gossiped about you to your mutual stylist. Again all I can say is tacky. If I were you anytime I dealt with her it would be with a long handled spoon. 

Post # 12
10545 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

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elizabethlindsay7 :  

Nah, you’ve done all the right things. Stay strong if she starts up again. It’s your small intimate family/friends   wedding ( I still am  amazed that these get called  ‘ elopements’ lol)   so keep it that  way! 

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