Post # 1
We’re inviting 100 people comprising about 50 couples/families, and we expect maybe 70 guests to attend. Thus far we’ve assembled a 185-item registry that totals about $4400. This seems like too much to ask for, although over half of the items are <$10, and fully 80% are <$30 (lots of small kitchen utensils, individual dinnerware pieces, etc.). Should we cut down our registry for any hope of ending up with most of the items we really want? We’d hate to end up with only half of a dish set for having too many choices to choose among.
I see plenty of registries totaling $9-11,000, but I imagine that such couples are inviting more people than we are. For what it’s worth, we aren’t having a shower or engagement party where gifts would be given before the wedding, and probably 50% of our anticipated guest list will be traveling from out of town.
Post # 3
I think you should cut down your registry to the things that you really want. Do you have an idea of the “normal” average gift amount in your circle? If so, I’d try to put the majority of items (or sets of items) in that price range. Having some low cost options on the registry is good, but it can also cause people to gift less.
I had this problem at my wedding. Basically a lot of people have a set amount that they want to spend on the gift, but if they couldn’t find anything around that price on your registry, they may end up spending less rather than buying several different gifts.
Post # 4
We were told to have twice as many items as we have guests, but we probably have about 120 items for 100 people. Most of the items that have been bought so far were between $20-$100. We had quite a few little things on there (utensils etc) but not many of them were bought. It seems like people prefer one larger gift, or two medium sized.
Post # 5
We invited about as many people as you and registry included things that we actually want and would like to have (versus just adding just to add). I think we have less skus/items overall but the dollar amount is at least as high as yours, if not higher. We also didn’t have showeres or parties.
I would be careful registering for things that don’t come in sets but are meant to be in sets, so like china sets with all the pieces coming separately. I had a friend do that and she would receive, for example, 2 out of the 8 tea cups with 2 out of the 8 saucers and four dinner plates. Unfortunately, people buy weird quantities of things. However, if it’s like a set of dishes and includes 4 settings in one set, you should be okay. However, if you do that, you should be truthful with yourself and see if you would want to buy the other half yourself if you are only gifted 1/2 of what you need. Of course, you can always return what people gave you to finish off a set and sacrifice something else. For example, we want to finish our glasses/barware, so we are returning a vase (that looked best as a set of two) to cover the costs of the leftover unpurchased glasses.
We had more people buy a ton of $10-20 items as a couple than one large item. For example, one couple gave us $300 worth of gifts but it consisted of 4 items. I had another unexpectedly generous Out of Town friend that gifted us all of the servingware plus stemware (came out to about $250 – probably 7 skus/product numbers) even though we had large items that equaled that amount.
So all in all, I would just keep what you have on your registry since you like all of it. You honestly never know with people. We had single guests give us $300 in gifts that were also from out-of-town and we had local guests that did $50. Strangely, despite having a ton of items in many price points the day of the wedding, we got a lot of cash/checks (probably from 1/2 of the guest list, if not more). This may be because I also had a fair amount of online only items on the registry.
Post # 6
it depends on if you are going to have a bridal shower too. I don’t know about your circle, but typically people don’t show up to a bridal shower with just one plate or one garlic press. if you have 185 things and you have a bridal shower of 20 people each who purchase three things that is 60 of those smaller gifts off the list. Also take in to account great aunt whomever (or fill in your over generous relitive) who will purchase ALL of the sheets towels etc.
If you are not going to have a shower I would say condense for sure, otherwise I think it is okay
Post # 7
also adding. I think most people know about completion discounts so it is not uncommon for people to register for things these days that they know they are not necessarily going to get but will purchase for themselves later
Post # 8
Given your price points, I think you’re good! You have tons of choice on very low dollar values… I really wouldn’t
If you’re really worried, go through and rank all your items based on how badly you want them. Then take off the lower priority stuff and add it back on later, as things are purchased.
Your average price is $23/item, so $56 per person. Assuming you have some close family members/friends who will spend a fair bit more than that, you’re probably good. There’s even a chance you will run out of registery items if everyone buys things + you receive a bunch of cash!
Post # 9
missed finishing a sentence. *sigh*