Post # 1
I was just having some thoughts and wanted to put them out into the universe…
My Fiance and I are having our destination wedding in the Dominican Republic on 07/04/13. We both wanted a smaller intimate wedding, and invited around 60 guests total, thinking around 20-25 would attend. We know destination weddings mean more expenses for the guests so we gave over a year in notice and help set up a travel agent.
I requested on the save the date for guests to RSVP on our wedding website by January 31st, so that we may complete things like where to have the reception, Out of Town bags and favors and formal invites. Well…Here it is almost December and so far only 6 people are for sure coming. Not that we wanted a huge wedding, but we are now facing the task of deciding where/IF to have a reception… I am sooooo sad because the one thing I have always wanted was to dance with my mom and dad at my wedding reception. But with 6-10 people, is it weird to hire a DJ? Should we just do a beach bonfire??
Have any of you faced this or been to a really small destination wedding? Any thoughts or ideas for me?! I am getting discouraged!
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
You are still 2 months away from the RSVP date. I think you may be unnecessarily worrying yourself over nothing.
Post # 4
@SchmukalsBride: I’m sorry that you’re not getting the responce you were hoping for. It sucks when people who you thought were “for sures” turn out to be no-gos.
Thing is, this is the nature of a destination wedding. Most people won’t go.
I think a DJ might be a bit much for 10 people. Perhaps a nice dinner at a 5 star restraunt, and you can ‘hit the town’ after with whoever feels like partying!
Chin up, it’s still going to be magical~
Post # 5
Since your RSVP date is still a ways away maybe some people are waiting to the last minute to RSVP. We thought we wouldnt get that many people to come to our wedding but surprisingly we now have 58 confirmed guests!! You would still be able to have a fun bonfire with 10 people but a DJ probably wont be necessary
Post # 6
Are you working with a wedding coordinator at your resort? Do they have any suggestions? Maybe an acoustic guitarist or steel drum player to play through dinner, and you can get your dances? Or dance at a reception back home?
Post # 7
For something that small I would definitely do an iPod kind of thing, maybe at a beach bonfire and then you can have your cake and eat it too. But yeah I wouldn’t count your chicks before they hatch. There is still 2 months to go.
I hear ya though, our guest list is about half of what we originally anticipated.
Post # 8
Maybe your guests are just more focused on the holidays right now and may want to wait until after them before committing to spend money to go to your wedding? Also…your wedding is on a holiday so maybe you have guests debating about whether or not to forgo their holiday plans to attend your wedding?
We had less than 30 people at ours (including us) and our reception was very laid back but everyone had a great time. Did the whole ipod dj thing so we still got our first dance and dance with our parents plus cake cutting, bouquet and garter toss, all were just on a much smaller scale.
Post # 9
Look at it this way, if you have only a few guests, you can certainly have a dinner party at a nice club or private room at a restaurant back home.
Usually venues have an in-house DJ and it may not make much of a difference between the cost of a dj or a set up of an ipod/computer system.
Dance the night away your way. Don’t worry about it. I would send Christmas cards this year and say “haven’t heard your response from the wedding – here’s a friendly reminder to do so by such a such date.”
Hopefully you will get more responses.
All the best!
Post # 10
Dont worry, as long as yours/his mum n dad come itll be special….
Post # 11
Thanks for all the input ladies, I know that no matter what as long as he and I are there it will be great. I was never one to think I would ever get married! I just want to ensure that we have a great time for our guests that will be there, don’t want to disappoint!
Post # 12
@SchmukalsBride: Did more people end up replying for your wedding?
Post # 13
Nope! They still have a few weeks until the arbitrary deadline I set, because I need some solid numbers for planning.
I have decided to change my venue, from the resort to a private restaurant on the beach!! It is in the Dominican Republic, called Kukua Beach Club, it has a private little pool, outside terrace and it is way more intimate than the resort. Plus the resort just nickle and dimes you to death!! I am pretty excited to have made the change!
Post # 14
@SchmukalsBride: it could alos be that they want to book their flight/hotel before RSVP for sure, and are waiting to do that? it’s a little early still you aren’t getting married till summer right?
Post # 15
January is still very early to book flights too. Prices might be a little high. Also, my wedding is in April and our RSVP by date is next Friday and I still haven’t heard from a lot of my guests. Even some that have said they were coming haven’t booked flights yet and the wedding is 3 months away. I probably would have made the deadline for a July Destination Wedding in March. I was even concerned that January was too early for my Destination Wedding in April but it’s not. They should pretty much know 3 months out if they can make it or not.