Small intimate wedding.. Feeling guilty for not inviting everyone.

posted 3 years ago in Guests
Post # 17
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

stephaniee24 :  well then it really shakes down to, do you want to offend your family(the excluded members of course) or share your love with the ones you love. Honestly, if this dream were so important, you’d have done it that way from the start.

I’m seldom the oneto criticize a PPD, but this is ridiculous. You’re married. You’re either more focused on having pretty pictures or having a good party with your family, choose.

Post # 18
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Buzzing bee

stephaniee24 : I’m getting conflicting messages here. You’re “not looking to plan a crazy amount” but you want a formal “dream” reception? That’s going to involve a lot of time and energy unless you’re hiring an event planner to do just about all of it for you.

If having your “dream” reception is more important than maximizing the number of people able to attend, own your choice. You might not want to hurt anyone’s feelings, but you want other things more.

I wouldn’t prioritize financing a party over having a child tbh…

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2017

Echo-ing last poster: do you want a party or a baby? what is first priority?

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

you’re already married. You got married at the courthouse. Was your extended family upset when that happened?

Post # 25
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

Real simple, what’s more important? Do you want a fancy small “dream” party and then a baby, or a large more casual party and then a baby? Or a large fancy party and then a baby down the road 

I mean, just go with option 1, as it doesn’t seem as though you really care about possibly offending extended family members. So just do what you want to do, and I’m sorry if you didn’t get the validation you were looking for.

Post # 27
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Honey bee

stephaniee24 :  You should do your church ceremony with 50 of the guests you have in mind. I think that would be sweet especially if it falls on the same date as your civil ceremony. 

Post # 29
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Bumble bee

This party is 3 years after the courthouse wedding. I can’t see that many people getting offended by not getting an invite.  

Post # 30
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Bumble bee

I don’t know why anyone would get offended by not being invited to a party/ vow renewal. It’s not a wedding, so there’s no ‘but I always dreamed I’d be there the day you got married!’ Since that ship sailed 3 years ago. 

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