(Closed) Small Living Quarters and Keeping Your Sanity

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Yes! I live in a 1 bedroom so when I need ‘me’ time I go in the bedroom or send him into it and stay in the living area! Also,  now in the summer I just go on the roof top =)

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Indiana Memorial Union

We shared a studio for a year and it would get tough sometimes. We put up a curtain to divide the space and sometimes I would just say I was having me time, take some headphones, and sit on the bed behind the curtain 🙂

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

our place actually isn’t that small, but we always seem to be in the same place at the same time. when i moved in we decided i’d use the 2nd room (which is just storage now) for my me time where i’d do my art, but i just bring it into the living room to be with my hubby. and he just had surgery so he’s been working from home, so we have LOTS of time together. fortunately neither of us get annoyed with each other (so far!) though. if i did want to get away, i’d probably just go into another room or go to a movie or something.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

yup I feel ya…we just moved to a bigger place, actually, so now we have three separate rooms. But he’s so annoying, he wants me to be next to him on the couch when he’s watching tv, even if it’s something I have no interest in. So I can be happily doing my own thing, on the computer or in the bedroom, and he’ll start calling my name from the living room. grrr! So basically I just tell him I need “me” time and I try to zone out, lol. Sometimes I’ll go to the gym to get alone time, or go for a run in the park, or out for a mani/pedi.

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My fiance and I live together and have a small apartment but we don’t annoy one another so there hasn’t been any concern about needing me time. We are studying for the bar exam and it has been high stress so if someone needs a moment to themselves one of us usually goes into the bedroom to lie down. We’re moving at the end of the summer and are getting a 2 bedroom apartment. The second bedroom will be an office/library so if I need time I will probably go in there. 

I think it is important to voice when you need me time. And if you need it don’t be afraid or feel bad about saying so. We all need some time to sit quietly with our thoughts. 

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

We live in a small one bedroom, and what has really worked for us is staggering our work schedules. I work 9-5, he works 11-7 (our bosses let us come in whenever we want!), so that way we each get a couple of hours of time to ourselves in the apartment every day. I have time right after work, he has time after I go to sleep/after I leave for work. Serious sanity saver!

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

We’re kind of strange because we both actually prefer to be with each other whenever possible and even if we had a bigger place would probably wind up in the same room anyway. Actually, now that I’m thinking about it though, I wish I had a private space to use the computer because it gets really annoying when he looks over my shoulder and asks about everything I’m doing. Like for example, I stalk wedding photos on Face Space so he’ll come over and ask “Oh, whose wedding is that?” And obviously I’ll have no idea who it is and feel embarrased that he caught me doing it.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

We are right there with you, FH joined me in NYC in March in my tiny studio.  Luckily a larger one bedroom opened up in June and we were able to move, which thank god, becuase that’s when his two large (80 lbs and 55 lbs) moved in with us.  The fact there is a door for the bedroom seems to give us just enough private space and time.  We still own a home in Atlanta and everytime we go back, we are amazed at all the space!  Keep looking for a bigger apartment, one will come along and you can look back at this time in the earlier part of your lives and be amazed by what you overcame.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

We have lived in our tiny one-bedroom apartment for 2.5 years.  We were going to move right before we got engaged and then we decided to put it off. And then we almost moved again right after the wedding but then decided to put if off again.  We hate being in such cramped quarters and with no storage, but we just can’t justify spending twice as much on rent just to have a bit more space.  Right now we are thinking that if we suffer and save now we will be able to buy a house sooner. 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee

Yep, it’s something my family in Texas don’t understand. A one bedroom in Texas is not the same as one in NYC. Well, I hate watching TV and he does. And sometimes it’s loud. So I just take my book and go to the room and read it!

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Well, I know my place in Dallas isn’t as small as people in NYC or anything but my Fiance is moving in next month to my 1 br (600 sq feet).  So excited, but I know there’ll be times when we just need to get away!  Luckily one of us can go to the bedroom and the other can stay in the living room.

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