Post # 1
I feel bad about this rant, but I need to gripe for a second. We spent a lot of time on the registries, making sure that we registered for things that we need (like a new toaster oven becuase our old one was on it’s last leg, or new plates because we’ve been using his ones and they’re old and scratched). I am very grateful that people care about us enough to send us gifts, and I feel like a spoiled brat saying this, and the people are very important to us. We registred for things that help us entertain (which we love to do) and to have the home we want to build together. So why on earth do people feel the need to go off registry???
Now we have a lot of random items, with no gift receipts, that we don’t have space for (we live in the city). One that really annoys me is a couple we’re close to who gave us a pitcher (some fish thing that’s big in the east coast, I think). We already have 2 pitchers. They’ve seen them used, and one is from my Grandma. WTF are we going to do with a small fish shaped pitcher? Neither of us particularly enjoys fish as a decorative theme, either. Fiance and I looked at it in the box and both were like, WTH? Someone else gave us baking books – I’m /gluten intolerant/! There’s a coaster set when we actually have too many coasters already. Oh, and 3 extra sets of serving utensils that don’t have receipts either. Again, we’re really grateful for people being there, and for the gifts, but we don’t have a lot of space. WTH are we going to do with this stuff?? Some of it isn’t our style, some of it we don’t need and can’t use, and some of it are duplicates/triplicates. And some people will be at our place and I feel like we can’t just donate it to a shelter. Gah!
Post # 2
Lol I live in Maine and I hate those damn fish pitchers. I would just get rid of stuff I don’t like. I’m sure we will get stuff we didn’t register for but hopefully we will like some of it. I have no qualms about donating gifts that I have no use for, but I’m known for not at all being a people pleaser.
Post # 3
- Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course
l’m sorry this happened but the fish pitcher part is too funny. 😀 Keep what you can use and donate the rest to a local church or shelter maybe? Its annoying but you can’t control what people choose to gift. Although why anyone would ignore the registry is beyond me unless you were asking for a $200 toaster.
Post # 4
I was all set to tell you that registries are suggestions only and it’s not mandatory that people go by your registry…. but then I heard about the Ugly Fish Pitcher That No Bride Should Be Without and other useless random stuff & you swayed me over to your side.
There are 2 types of people who go ‘off registry’ IMO:
Type 1: The creative, think-outside-the-box gifters who either make their own talented gifts or search thoughtfully for unique super cool gifts.
Type 2. The cheap sneaky gifters who either re-gift you crap that was foisted on them by other re-gifters or else buy you random god-awful clearance sale items that they know aren’t what you want, but hey it’s a gift and look how cheap we got off fulfilling our gift-buying obligation- score!
You definitely had some #2s @ your wedding (keep this in mind if you’re ever shopping for them and slightly irregular garden gnomes are on sale @ Wal-mart
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2016 - Galleria Marchetti
I totally don’t understand it either. But people will do what they want to do. If some of the stuff is extras off your registry you hypothetically should be able to return/exchnage it, right? Otherwise, write a nice thank you note and donate. At least you’ll get a little bit of a tax write-off?
We didn’t get too many off registry gifts, although my MIL’s friends got us a painting of Rockefeller Center at Christmas time. It’s lovely and done by an artist in DH’s hometown, but we live in Chicago and legitamently have NO connection to NYC… not sure what we’re going to do with it as we also live in a city… oh well
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom
I spent WEEKS painstakingly working on my registry. Balancing out cost and functionality….there were things for every pocketbook. The most expensive thing on the registry was $150, but the average cost of item was $40-$60.
Literally everybody gave us cash…so it was all for nothing :-p
PS…I want/need to see a picture of this fish pitcher!
Post # 7
I think we need a photo of this fish pitcher.
Honestly I wish you could register for other gift-giving events without looking like an entitled ass. Kids birthday parties come to mind. Is it any huge surprise that people give gifts at a kid’s birthday party? I have such a pile of fussy dresses that my girls will never wear, they own literally six times as many fancy outfits as I do.
Post # 8
- Wedding: October 2016 - October 2017
I’m so sorry that happened to you! Unfortunately I didn’t even realize wedding registries were really a big thing anymore. I have only been to two weddings in my life and neither had a registry available, I wasn’t even planning to do one. I do hope you get something you actually need tho!
Post # 9
Haha! Ok, here’s a link to the company site that features the fish pitcherin the color we got: https://www.shrevecrumpandlow.com/blue-gurgling-cod-small/ecomm-product-detail/203858/ (You can even watch a video of a “demonstration of the delightful gurgling cod”.)
I think what’s really annoying me if that we don’t have a lot of space, and we registered for things we actaully need or want (no $400 gravy boats), and had stuff that was cheaper, too. So some things are really just going to be donated. :-/
Post # 10
“I feel like a spoiled brat saying this
” — Almost any time someone complains about what presents they received, it does come off as spoiled.
Post # 11
Is the fish pitcher the ugly one I just googled? Yikes!! LOL. I’m sorry to hear that. I was going to second the one about the well a registry is just a suggestion.
However, I’m super annoyed for you about the insenstive baking book when you have gluten intolerance. I have a lot of food problems and severe food allergies and I would be annoyed that someone close to me woudn’t think about that first. It’s like if I got a bowl of nuts. Thanks, I have to wash my hands and everything that it touched or might have touched.
Post # 12
I think I would actually like those gnomes. LOL
Post # 13
That fish pitcher! At least you have your gift covered if you go to a white elephant christmas party. 🙂
Post # 14
Wow… that pitcher is… very nautical? I feel for you on the cookbook, too – if you have an intolerance, then really, they should be sensitive to that!
Post # 15
or you can scan the barcode and see what stores carry that item, then return it. you may only get a store credit with no receipt but better than something you don’t want.