(Closed) Small rant about registries

posted 5 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 2
25 posts

Lol I live in Maine and I hate those damn fish pitchers. I would just get rid of stuff I don’t like. I’m sure we will get stuff we didn’t register for but hopefully we will like some of it. I have no qualms about donating gifts that I have no use for, but I’m known for not at all being a people pleaser. 

Post # 3
3046 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

l’m sorry this happened but the fish pitcher part is too funny. 😀 Keep what you can use and donate the rest to a local church or shelter maybe? Its annoying but you can’t control what people choose to gift. Although why anyone would ignore the registry is beyond me unless you were asking for a $200 toaster. 

Post # 4
5304 posts
Bee Keeper

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sipporah :  I was all set to tell you that registries are suggestions only and it’s not mandatory that people go by your registry…. but then I heard about the Ugly Fish Pitcher That No Bride Should Be Without and other useless random stuff & you swayed me over to your side.

There are 2 types of people who go ‘off registry’ IMO: 

Type 1: The creative, think-outside-the-box gifters who either make their own talented gifts or search thoughtfully for unique super cool gifts. 

Type 2. The cheap sneaky gifters who either re-gift you crap that was foisted on them by other re-gifters or else buy you random god-awful clearance sale items that they know aren’t what you want, but hey it’s a gift and look how cheap we got off fulfilling our gift-buying obligation- score!

You definitely had some #2s @ your wedding (keep this in mind if you’re ever shopping for them and slightly irregular garden gnomes are on sale @ Wal-mart

Post # 5
269 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016 - Galleria Marchetti

I totally don’t understand it either. But people will do what they want to do. If some of the stuff is extras off your registry you hypothetically should be able to return/exchnage it, right? Otherwise, write a nice thank you note and donate. At least you’ll get a little bit of a tax write-off?

We didn’t get too many off registry gifts, although my MIL’s friends got us a painting of Rockefeller Center at Christmas time. It’s lovely and done by an artist in DH’s hometown, but we live in Chicago and legitamently have NO connection to NYC… not sure what we’re going to do with it as we also live in a city… oh well

Post # 6
3756 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom

I spent WEEKS painstakingly working on my registry. Balancing out cost and functionality….there were things for every pocketbook. The most expensive thing on the registry was $150, but the average cost of item was $40-$60.

Literally everybody gave us cash…so it was all for nothing :-p

PS…I want/need to see a picture of this fish pitcher!

Post # 7
2175 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I think we need a photo of this fish pitcher.

Honestly I wish you could register for other gift-giving events without looking like an entitled ass. Kids birthday parties come to mind. Is it any huge surprise that people give gifts at a kid’s birthday party? I have such a pile of fussy dresses that my girls will never wear, they own literally six times as many fancy outfits as I do.

Post # 8
42 posts
  • Wedding: October 2016 - October 2017

I’m so sorry that happened to you! Unfortunately I didn’t even realize wedding registries were really a big thing anymore. I have only been to two weddings in my life and neither had a registry available, I wasn’t even planning to do one. I do hope you get something you actually need tho! 

Post # 10
8409 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

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sipporah :  “I feel like a spoiled brat saying this” — Almost any time someone complains about what presents they received, it does come off as spoiled.

Post # 11
6212 posts
Bee Keeper

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sipporah :  Is the fish pitcher the ugly one I just googled? Yikes!! LOL. I’m sorry to hear that. I was going to second the one about the well a registry is just a suggestion.

However, I’m super annoyed for you about the insenstive baking book when you have gluten intolerance. I have a lot of food problems and severe food allergies and I would be annoyed that someone close to me woudn’t think about that first. It’s like if I got a bowl of nuts. Thanks, I have to wash my hands and everything that it touched or might have touched.



Post # 13
1052 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

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sipporah :  That fish pitcher! At least you have your gift covered if you go to a white elephant christmas party. 🙂

Post # 14
914 posts
Busy bee

Wow… that pitcher is… very nautical? I feel for you on the cookbook, too – if you have an intolerance, then really, they should be sensitive to that!

Post # 15
7949 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

regift, donate,

or you can scan the barcode and see what stores carry that item, then return it.  you may only get a store credit with no receipt but better than something you don’t want.


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