Small registry for second baby: what's your opinion?

posted 6 months ago in Babies
Post # 61
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Bumble bee

So then don’t give gifts for a second baby. 🤷‍♀️ 

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lisaeversman :  

Post # 62
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Bumble bee

Re the amazon wish list thing, just know that you are taking away your family’s autonomy by having one of those. If a family member specifically asks you for it, that’s a trick question….you’re only being used as fodder for the family gossip train. SMH. 

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fromatoz :  

Post # 63
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Buzzing bee

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emilyofnewmoon :  so true, you do bring up a good point. Who am I to squelch the joy out of family members’ having to guess what to get me for a gift when it would be so easy as—just giving them a list!

Post # 64
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Busy bee

Honestly with all the recent conservationist movements, I’m surprised more people aren’t open to giving gifts that aren’t going to go to waste…and the only way to do that is to somehow know what they’ll actually need/use…like if they had a list, or something.

Post # 65
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Honey Beekeeper

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kiram :  I agree that there is no need for waste. Unwanted or unneeded baby gifts can be returned, donated, regifted or given to someone who needs the item. They aren’t going into a landfill.

Post # 66
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Blushing bee

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lisaeversman :  as someone who just had their second baby, that makes me really sad 😢 I certainly don’t think anyone is entitled to gifts but I really appreciated cards and small thoughtful gifts that were sent to him – he matters too! Should friends and family refrain from giving him birthday gifts in the future too? After all, subsequent birthdays are celebrating and honoring his literal birth day and if he shouldn’t be getting gifts for that why any other birthdays? Not to mention, he will have plenty of hand me down toys and clothes from his big brother and he’s “our responsibility as parents” to buy things for…

Post # 67
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Bumble bee

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fromatoz :  Exactly. My mom actually just called me to ask if I could create an Amazon wishlist for my daughter’s upcoming birthday. Luckily I didn’t fall for her trap! What a tacky mother I have, wanting specific suggestions from me so she can purchase a gift that will actually be used. 

Post # 68
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Bumble Beekeeper

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excitedmamatobee :  not for nothing but newborns don’t actually care about gifts. They don’t know what gifts are. They don’t know or care if they are wearing hand-me-downs so long as they are warm and dry. I’ll get a small gift for subsequent babies sometimes (I know some parents, myself included that don’t want more stuff though) but let’s be real – it’s for the parents not for the baby. Birthday gifts when kids are older and able to understand what’s going on are completely different. 

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Blushing bee

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LilliV :  other than necessities that my in laws wanted to buy (like diapers), we received gifts like handmade blankets and books with notes in the cover to him…those are keepsakes we will hang on to for him that I hope he’ll appreciate in the future. As for being too young to know about gifts, I’d say my two year old is just starting to understand gifts from people so I suppose he shouldn’t have received birthday, holiday and just for fun gifts up until now?

Post # 70
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Bumble Beekeeper

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excitedmamatobee :  I didn’t say he shouldn’t have, but his feelings weren’t going to be hurt if he didn’t was all I was trying to say. It’s parents that care about gifts for newborns not the actual baby. Hopefully he’ll love the keepsakes someday! But there is also a solid chance he’ll not particularly care and they will clutter up your attic when he’s an adult. 

I’m also weird if that I’d rather people spend time with my kid than give her stuff. You know what my 2 year olds favorite birthday present was? Her grandfather surprising her at daycare and playing the guitar for her class. That memory will last longer than any toy he could have bought her. Stuff doesn’t make us feel loved – time and attention does. 

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Bumble bee
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excitedmamatobee :  I think there is a big different between gifts directed to the parent at his birth (a crib, stroller, etc) and gifts directed to the child at a birthday.  All children should receive birthday gifts!

Post # 72
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Blushing bee

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LilliV :  I totally agree with that! One of the best gifts we’ve revmceived for my older son was a gift cert for a mom/baby class we regularly go to that he really enjoys. Unfortunately we live 11 hours away from all of our family so that probably plays a role in our gifting practices…I think it’s one of the ways that our far away family feels they can sort of “be” there when they can’t physically be here. Of course we FaceTime and call but it’s hard not being able to just drop by to get some QT! 

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