(Closed) Small ring upgrade advice!!! (Poll)

posted 5 years ago in Rings
  • poll: What should I do??

    Suck it up and wear your current ring forever

    Bring up possibility of upgrading my small diamond to a moissanite to my husband

    Wait and replace small diamond with grandmother's diamond in 10 years or so

  • Post # 16
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    I think if its something you feel strongly about then you should feel comfortable discussing this with your husband.

    Post # 17
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2016

    Yea I think the bigger stone ship has sailed… It should have been something discussed before he purchased. I think its too late now to talk about upgrades without devastating him.

    Post # 18
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2016

    I would say Don’t depend on that diamond of grandma’s. I was told by my aunt that she was leaving me her wedding ring – but despite the fact that she put it in her Will, her  **(insert rude word here)** son argued that she left “her house” to him, and that included everything in it. Without spending a lot of money on lawyers to argue the case, I just had to let it go. Fortunately there wasn’t a big diamond in it that I had my heart set on.

    So… go ahead and get the stone you want. Don’t wait for grandma’s diamond, or you could be very disappointed.

    Personally – I would get a new moissey ring if I was you. Despite what other people say, I LOVE my moissey eternity band, and I don’t think of it any different from a diamond band. I wear it with my diamond engagement ring, and no one sees the difference. I had a woman the other day in a store gushing over how beautiful my rings are.

     

    Post # 19
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2008

    I’d keep it the way it is. My experience tells me that your man put enough time, effort and care into choosing the perfect ring for you that he won’t be open to an upgrade and will likely just get upset/angry at your suggestion. My DH is similar. I thought after 8 years and the setting being continually damaged that he would be okay with replacing the setting with something more durable, but when I broached the subject he literally freaked out at me and sulked for days, so I told him to forget it; I would just continue to pay for repairs.

    Post # 20
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    2500 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: County courthouse

    I too thought bigger was better and swapped my three stone moissanite to a large 2.5ct moissanite. Now I find myself admiring small rings (1ct and under). To be honest, my huge ring is always getting in my way and I often feel that it’s too big. I would love a .5ct-.75ct ring.

    Post # 21
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2016

    I think you should bring up your grandmothers diamond and tell him you want to wear it in her memory and the ring will hold something very specia ,l Not that it isn’t special right now but I think you should have a say in your ring you wear it everyday ect…. I think a .40 is small in my honest opinion but everyone has a different prefrence.. Do what will make you happy 🙂 can we see a photo of your ring? 

    Post # 22
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL

    Forget about grandma’s diamond for now. I think it’s a little morbid to be making plans with someone else’s things while they’re still around. To me, it’s kind of a “don’t count your chickens before they hatch” type of thing. If she leaves it to you, great! If not, then no biggie.

    Now about the ring – I would ask for a moissy RHR as an anniversary present. Wear it on your right hand for awhile, and then maybe start switching out your e-ring for it. But I agree with PPs that if this is important to you, you should be able to communicate it with your husband and come to a decision that works for both of you.

    Post # 23
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    3075 posts
    Sugar bee

    @FurtureDrAtkins I agree. It feels weird to be estimating when someone will die. 

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