Post # 1
Honey and I are wanting to do a semi-DW in our most beloved city of San Francisco in 2012. It is 1 1/2 hours away from us and also about the same distance from his family who lives on the other side of the bay. So… we will all be OOT! 🙂
We’ve narrowed it down to about 40 people (us, parents, grandparents, siblings and 2 close friends) that we absolutely want there no matter what. We are planning on renting a huge vacation house that will sleep about half of those people and everyone else will have to figure out (and pay for) their own accommodations. We do not plan on having a “big reception” once returning home from our week long wedding celebration.
How horrible is it to not invite our WHOLE family even though it is only an hour and a half away? Or should I invite everyone with the hopes (ouch! sounds terrible) that only 10 out of a potential 200 people show up for our midweek wedding?
Post # 3
If you can only afford to have 40 people come, then only invite that many. You don’t want to be hoping that people aren’t going to show in order to afford the wedding.
Post # 4
Ours is about an hour and a half from us and about three to four hours from our families. We only want max 36 people (including us) to come so we’re only inviting about 30 or so. We don’t want to invite everyone and not be able to accommodate everyone.
Post # 5
You don’t “have” to invite anyone. I only invited 35 people to my wedding, and am so glad that I left it that small!
Post # 6
Thanks ladies. I appreciate the advice. I think for us it’s more of a matter of wanting to keep it small as opposed to not being able to afford more people coming. We know it could get really out of hand if we start opening up that can of worms, but it has been such an emotional struggle trying to figure out a fair and safe approach to this whole thing.
I think we’re ok in going with parents, grandparents, siblings and a few close friends. What do you think?
p.s. We are going to offer the extra rooms in the house to our parents first to avoid anyone feeling we are being unfair. Do you think this is ok?