- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
I figure it’s time for a small update on my situation. My fiance and I sat down to home cooked meal the other night (which doesn’t happen often!) We had a nice glass of wine and just talked. We talked while we cooked, talked while we ate, hours passed and we didn’t notice. It was something we needed very much. Am I going to sit here and tell you we fixed weeks (maybe months) of built up frustration in 3 hours, no. But we certainly made an effort and we certainly made it a point to not let this happen again.
I’m no fool, I know the in an outs of relationships, I know when one is failing or not worth trying to fix. I know no relationship is perfect, and I know if he says he wont act out of frustration he probably still will and I probably will too. But the willingness to make the effort and do the hard work to change how we treat each other is there. We aren’t quitters.
As of right now the wedding is still on, he didn’t want to postpone it, but I did tell him we were going to take a break from it. I wont bring it up and badger him about side dishes and guest lists and he wont bring it up telling me he doesn’t want to wear dress shoes and wants to wear Vans! lol Of course in the back of my mind i am still planning the wedding like it’s still happening in October, so there’s is work for me to do, but I don’t have to bombard him or myself with it right this second.
Just going to see where this takes us, we didn’t once fight during our talk and we haven’t fought since. It’s just a healing time for our relationship right now. We’ve got some work to do, but we’re getting there.
Thanks for advice through this.