- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
I am doing what is as close to an elopement without eloping is as humanly possible. The first reason is budget, the second is time and the third is reality as far as marriage goes.
This is my second wedding, his third. Yeah I know it seems impossible to make it but we were first loves decades ago.
Money does not equal a successful marriage, trust me. An elaborate affair could be a lot of money wasted. We love each other, the important part is saying I do in front our elderly moms, and a few close friends. Everything else is gravy.
Everyday I see people on here agonizing over budget and family drama, it is normal. In laws don’t change, relationships can get better but from my experience I had to change everything I was in order to fit in a very different family from mine. So now we are both exactly who we are, looking at life from the same view point and knowing we want to grow older together.
So just know it is okay to say your budget is overwhelming. I looked around and priced stuff, it is ridiculous on our income much less on younger less established than we are.
We picked out our priority list, set a budget of $1000 rings included, yes I will be over but not by much. I am fortunate to have friends and co-workers that are pitching in to help us. We are not registering or wanting gifts we consider anything given to help us get married as a true gift.
Be encouraged, it is okay to say you cannot afford things out of your price range.