Post # 1
So I know this is sort of far off, since we’re not even engaged yet… but my SO and I already speak wedding quite often. This most recent time was about the size of the wedding, and how to invite my brothers date.
So we are thinking of a very small wedding, only immediate family invited, meaning my parents, my siblings, their spouses/children, his parents, his siblings, their spouses/children.
That being said, my brother (age 26) is the only single one. But, the thing is… he is never single for long. He has a new girlfriend (and its always ‘the one’ and has been engaged 3 times) every 2-3 months. I feel bad not giving him a plus one, but I don’t want a random girl in our wedding photos. Also, we’re not even having our very best friends since birth and childhood at our wedding (because we are doing family only)… so if I was going to have non-family there, I would rather have them than his “flavor of the month.”
If we had a bigger wedding, I would no doubt give him a date, but since it is so personal and intricate, I don’t want a random.
I mean, its not like he’d be lonely… he knows our WHOLE ENTIRE FAMILY. And its not like people would be all over each other to make him uncomfortable about being alone. What would you do?
Post # 3
We have having a similarly small wedding and did not give the two singles a +1. I can’t imagine a date would feel anything other than awkward at such an intimate family affair.
Post # 4
@LeonardLady: I would wait and the problem may solve itself. By the time you get engaged and finish planning a wedding, his situation may change. I’m not one for wasting energy worrying about things you can’t do anything about.
If he is still single and not in a committed relationship, and given that you are having immediate family only, I would probably not give him a plus one. What purpose would it serve? Would you be having dancing at a small family only wedding?
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
I would not worry about anything til you’re engaged.
Post # 6
@julies1949: Oh no, neither SO or I enjoy dancing… we already knew from day one even if we had a large wedding we wouldnt have dancing.
@lealorali: Yes, I know, but SO already bought the ring (just the other day!) and we talk about specifics of the wedding pretty often (him bringing it up). So the engagement is right around the corner.
@bridinmt: Thanks! Yeah, that makes sense.
Post # 7
@LeonardLady: I wouldn’t worry about it just yet but I agree with @bridinmt:
Post # 8
its just one person.. i woulnt make a big deal.. plus you dont know if it will b the flavor of the month by then, or if he has f ound “the one” 🙂
Post # 9
@LeonardLady: I would say no to plus 1 I agree to not wanting some random chick in my wedding pics