Post # 1
Anyone else have a backup invite list?
We’re doing a super duper small wedding <100. Our invites were labor intensive (designed, letterpressed, printed, folded, stuffed all by myself) so I only have a handful left….literally <10.
The problem is that the lack of responses has me concerned if we’ll make the minimum mark. We invited only intimate friends and family who we thought were definite but now we’re not sure if people are just being lazy, if they’re still deciding whether or not to come (Labor Day weekend wedding), OR if they’re soo intimate that they figure they just don’t need to RSVP.
I ask small wedding people because numbers are a bit tighter than large scale weddings. We want 60, invited only 75…..was that too naive?
Post # 3
I don’t think 60 counts as a small wedding, maybe smaller than some but not little In My Humble Opinion. Plus you still have time to get those RSVP’s back, not a lot of people jump at the moment they get the invite to send it in (when is your reponse date?). I wouldn’t stress if you don’t meet the minimum either you were anticipating paying the same amount either way and this will allow you to have an even smaller more intimate wedding.
Post # 4
Do you guests know it’s a small wedding? I feel like they would reply whether or not the wedding is small. I’m worried about guests coming also, but we are inviting 100 and hoping for about 70-80. I’ve started a backup list in my head, if people end up not coming. You said you’re still working on the invitations, so you haven’t sent them out yet? I would wait til you’re closer to the RSVP deadline before you invite more people. Good Luck!
Post # 5
We’re inviting 80, and hoping for most of them to come, as our venue requires us to pay for a minimum of 75 people’s worth of food for the type of reception we want. (I am meeting with them next week, however, since they’re under new management, to see if they’ll give a little on that figure.) Logically I know, though, that not near that many people will come… and I have no backup list; I’ve already invited my back-up people!
I’m prepared to pay for the extra food… and to demand that it be packed up and sent home with me and/or my guests! If I paid for it, we’re eating it!