(Closed) Small Wedding Help!

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
7296 posts
Busy Beekeeper

i’ll answer your questions to the best of my abilities!

Would it be wrong to only have a maid of honor and a best man and not a whole bridal party?

absolutely not, its perfectly fine!!!!  (no bridal party at all is fine too)


Where can I find dirt cheap invitaions that still look elegant?

vistaprint – i used them for my at home reception – i got like $70 for $30 plus shipping. something like that. or Michaels, as long you print coupons off their website before you go.

How can I NOT offend anyone by not inviting them?

 if anyone asks (which they shouldn’t), explain small budget means small wedding with only family and very few friends.  that’s already more info that you are required to give.

I really don’t want a bridal shower but I know my FI’s mom is going to push for one, how do I say no or should I just give in and have it?

tough one for me to answer for you.  i don’t think it could be THAT bad.  can you explain to her why you don’t want one?  or at least insist thats its not a big hooplah

We want pictures of course but how to do this and save moolah?!

look for amateur photographers on craiglist who are looking to build their portfolio (ie. they shouldn’t be too expensive) – and then take charge, tell them EXACTLY what you want. Send them a list, inspiration pictures……and then designate someone to be in charge on your wedding day to make sure you get all the shots you want.  

Post # 4
103 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think your plan sounds awesome.  I’m much more comfortable at small parties and dinners rather than huge parties, so that sounds like a fantastic celebration to me!

I think it’s fine, and even very appropriate, to have either a very small wedding party or none at all if you’re having a very intimate wedding!

For the shower, my vote is – don’t worry about it.  If your FI’s mom wants you to have one that badly, maybe she’ll take charge of hosting it…?  If she does, maybe you can help her out with a guest list (no one who’s not invited to the wedding!) and leave the rest to her.

Agreed with PP – saying “It’s a REALLY small wedding – just our immediate families” should take care of it. Anyone with manners should understand that.

My mom sent me an article a few weeks ago about setting up a photo-sharing website for wedding guests to upload photos that they take at your wedding.  Or, I think the idea of putting out a few cheap cameras for people to use is a cute one.  Not all the photos will be professional-quality, but hopefully you’d get a handful of good shots.

Post # 5
398 posts
Helper bee

We are having a small wedding around 20 people.  We are getting married by a river at a park.  Then having a dinner reception.  We found an upscale cafe that has a private room.  It will be a buffet style dinner.

I did the DIY Invitation kit from Michaels.   We opted not to have anyone stand up with us.  My best friend will be reading a poem she wrote.

I’m not very close to my extended family, so I got out of the akwardness of not inviting them.  His family was a little disappointed but all have respected our choice.  We are going a get together at his parents out the day after to watch football.  It was a good compromise.


Post # 7
7693 posts
Bumble Beekeeper


My daughter made their wedding invitations layered resume paper with color cardstock, chose a font and printed them on my computer.  We used rubber cement between the layers, 2 paper punches at the top tied with a bow.  They were very nice, and very inexpensive.  You might want to visit “Intimate Weddings” website.

Post # 8
11392 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

My husband & I got married on 12/11/10 in my husband’s family Church. We had a small wedding also. 20 or so people. I had one Maid/Matron of Honor & one bridesmaid. My husband had one best man. We also had two flower girls. I’ll tell what we did & how we had the wedding of our dreams for under 1000 bucks.

My dress was second hand & my mom bought it for under 100 dollars. My husband didn’t do a tux (Ill add pictures to show everything at the bottom.) We didn’t do flowers, it was in the winter so we did a winter wonderland theme. If you want to do a fall theme you can save alot by buying stuff at the family dollar & dollar stores. Like fall leaves for the isle, ect. That is where we bought our decorations. Our cake came from food city. You can get a small one teir cake or a bigger cake with 2-3 tiers. I did my own hair & make up. I bought a flower piece instead of a veil & it was 5 bucks. As for invites you can get some cheap ones at walmart & they are still really pretty. They have a 100 pack for 19 dollars & In your case they also have a 50 pack sine you are having 35 or so guests. As for a photographer my sister took our pictures. & Since she was my Maid/Matron of Honor my mom & other family members took pictures during the ceremony. My mom bought our food. We had slidders, veggies, fruit both with dip, other small dinner things like the slidders, cubed cheese, ect. (party trays.) My mother in law made home made peanut butter balls, chocolate covered pretzels & my mom also got us alot of different cookies. They was all yummy & she got it all at walmart, including the slidders & dinner foods that was in party trays & they tasted great! My guest book/pen & cake topper came from walmart. Party favors came from the dollar store. They was called homemade suckers (They was shaped like a snowflake, they as blue & very pretty!) We also got everyone a holiday card along with the sucker. You can buy flowers from the family dollar or dollar store & make your own bouquet also, that’s what I did. Anyways to say the least we saved alot of money. Had a small wedding with our closet family & it was the wedding of our dreams. 🙂 Decorations at any dollar store, or family dollar will help save alot. They have beautiful flowers, candles, floating candles, vases, heart shaped candy dishes, ect. That was the biggest money saver, we bought 20 some items (vases, heart glass candy dishes, candles, favors, ect at the dollar store for 20 some bucks!) Our budget doesn’t include our rings or a honey moon-Just the wedding decorations, dress, his suit, food, cake, ect.

Here are some of the pictures.


Good luck & I really hope this helps! 🙂

Post # 9
377 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We’re doing something somewhat similar, except I set out 6 mths to plan it all.

I think having a small bridal party only makes sense for a small wedding. Otherwise, half the guests are standing up at the front with you.

Unfortunately, some people might end up offended by your decision,but  just be as polite as possible when explaining yourself. I’ve dealt with some drama over it, but not too much.

Just mention that you do not want a bridal shower. I did so and explained why not. We’re living in a little apartment. We have no room for a lot of stuff. If we get a lot of stuff I will not be able to keep it. Of course, I still already got an appliance I will probably never use, but it was a nice gesture and hopefully everyone doesn’t follow suit.

As for invitations, if you have a good printer it’s possible to get some nice ones for fairly cheap (I got mine from Michaels). I don’t really have a good printer and I did it anyway. They’re not perfect, but that’s okay by me.

Post # 10
780 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I think your plan sounds perfect!  We are also having a small (50 family members) wedding. 

Would it be wrong to only have a maid of honor and a best man and not a whole bridal party?

Nope – we are having our children as our wedding party. You can have only a Maid/Matron of Honor and a Bridesmaid or Best Man or no one at all.

Where can I find dirt cheap invitaions that still look elegant?

There are a few really cool websites where you can have a designer make the invite for you- you pay for the design and then simply print out the invitation on your own paper and ink.

Look on those ‘weddings on a budget sites’ or project wedding.

How can I NOT offend anyone by not inviting them?

In our case- we are just explaining that it will be very small and leaving it at that.  For cousins that live far away and extended family, we are thinking about doing a wedding announcement in lieu of an invite to the ceremony.

I really don’t want a bridal shower but I know my FI’s mom is going to push for one, how do I say no or should I just give in and have it?

If she insists- have it and have fun!!!!!  She is just trying to be nice and you will probably have a blast!

We want pictures of course but how to do this and save moolah?!

We have two photographers.  One is a dear friend of mine and one is a photography student from a local college.  We are giving the first a $100 gift card as a thank you and the second is charging us $150 for the day!

Hope this helps 🙂  – Keisha

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