(Closed) Small wedding … I need some encouragement …

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper

It doesn’t matter HOW many people are there, but that the right people are there. Don’t worry! Your wedding will be a blast b/c everyone is going to be there to celebrate you!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Mine was small (though larger then I’d originally thought!) with only 37 at the ceremony (by choice) and 76 at the reception.  We aren’t dancers or drinkers so we didn’t have a dj or a bar, but we had the full dinner buffet, cake, escort cards, centerpieces, and all the rest.  It was just perfect in my humble opinion!!  🙂  Everyone I talked to enjoyed the wedding and reception and I’m still getting compliments.  BTW, you’re wedding day is my legal wedding anniversary!!  

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

We had all the typical wedding stuff (seated dinner, DJ, bar, 1st dance, etc.) as well and only had 80 guests. We invited 100 but anticipated 80 since DH’s family is also out of the country. Ultimately, my goal number was 80 because that was a comfortable number for our venue. I think you can still have a traditional wedding with less than 100 people without a problem, just make sure your venue is not too big and no one will find it odd. A venue for 150 with only 50 people will look odd.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper

We had the whole big wedding and only had 65 guests! It was AWESOME. Our guest list was strictly family and close friends, we knew everyone and because the list was so small, we got to talk to everyone individually. It was nice to be able to spend a little one-on-one time with everyone.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I had a small wedding – 80 guests – on a Sunday afternoon that went in to early Sunday evening and had a fabulous time! My first wedding, when I was 22 years old, was a big Polish blowout with 250 guests, most of whom I didn’t say more than “thank you” to the entire night. My small wedding, with close family and friends, was so much fun. We ate, drank, danced with everyone, took pictures with the kids, wandered the grounds. The atmosphere is different with a small wedding but, for me, it felt more intimate and personal. Have a great time planning and enjoy your day!

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Yep we did it all like you are planning w/ 70 guests & it was on a Sunday! Don’t worry about it, 70 is actually bigger then you think 🙂

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

It’s going to be awesome! 😀

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

We had 60 people at our at-home reception.  (The ceremony, in MA, was even smaller, with only a dozen guests.)  We had music, dancing, even a DIY fauxtobooth.  And we are still getting comments about how much fun it was.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Don’t worry about a thing! The RIGHT people will be there with you to help you celebrate your union. This day is about you and the love of your life.  The guest list shouldn’t get you down.

I’m having a destination wedding. I sent out my invites and everything, but  it looks like no one will be joining us. Am I sad? Maybe a little. Will I still have a great time and enjoy my Weddingmoon? YES, YES, YES!!!!!!!!

Hope you feel better soon Smile

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

We are having a small wedding, only 65 guests and I wouldnt have it any other way!  Its going to be cozy and intimate and I cant wait.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

No worries, we’re inviting about 70 and expecting 50-60. I think people will still have fun and you’ll get a chance to have a personal chat with each of your guests! I’m thrilled that we can spend more on each guest because of a smaller invite list.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

mine is smallish too…about 80 people…but we’re going all out as far as food and open bar and a photo booth. i decided in the beginning that i would rather have a small wedding with more stuff than more people with less stuff with the budget that i have. and anyway, mine is kind of a destination so it just kind of turned out that way also. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Is 80 really considered small??? That’s how many I have coming and it sounds like a mid-size to me. It breaks into 9 tables so I don’t consider that small at all!

You’re going to get to talk to everyone! And still have some time to dance. I think between 70 and 90 is the perfect size for a wedding. But I’m biased I suppose.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Getting married next Saturday!  Final guest count: 63!

And yes, we are doing the whole shebang (albeit on a budget).  We’re having a wedding ceremony, a welcome reception the night before, shuttling our guests to and from the wedding, and having a full lunch reception with cake, buffet, beer/wine/champagne bar, and Out of Town bags.  We have an awesome photographer, 6 people in our bridal party, favors, etc etc etc.

Its going to be awesome.  I worked on my seating chart last night and realized I know almost every single person there (except 6 of FI’s distant relatives) really well.  So I got really excited while arranging the tables because I knew for sure which guests would get along with whom.  The chart came together in 30 minutes and I’m really happy with it.

Most of all, I’m just really excited to see my friends and family in one place and know I will have plenty of time to see everyone and catch up during the weekend.

Embrace it, enjoy it!  I chose a small wedding not only for monetary reasons but because I always had the best time at small afternoon weddings.  The bigger, traditional nighttime weddings were always so exhausting and impersonal to me.  I am stoked for my wedding and you should be too!

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