Post # 1
My wedding is in a month (April 16th 2011) and I have a pretty small guests list. We sent our over 50 invitations, but looks like we’ll end up having around 70 people including the bridal party. I have always wanted a small wedding anyways, but I guess I am a little anxious on how things will turn out at the wedding day. We’re doing the whole nine yard, full lunch buffet reception, escort card, centerpieces, DJ, dancing, videographer, photographer – you name it and we have it!!! I guess, I just need some encouragements from other bees who is planning a small-ish wedding and doing the whole nine yard too … or maybe from other bees who had done this in the past as well.
I want everyone to have a good time, but it seems that all the weddings I have been invited to or read about have like 150+ guests … and while I have a lot of extended families (my mom has 13 brothers and sisters) – they all live outside the country and won’t be able to make it to my wedding …
Post # 3
It doesn’t matter HOW many people are there, but that the right people are there. Don’t worry! Your wedding will be a blast b/c everyone is going to be there to celebrate you!
Post # 4
Mine was small (though larger then I’d originally thought!) with only 37 at the ceremony (by choice) and 76 at the reception. We aren’t dancers or drinkers so we didn’t have a dj or a bar, but we had the full dinner buffet, cake, escort cards, centerpieces, and all the rest. It was just perfect in my humble opinion!! 🙂 Everyone I talked to enjoyed the wedding and reception and I’m still getting compliments. BTW, you’re wedding day is my legal wedding anniversary!!
Post # 5
We had all the typical wedding stuff (seated dinner, DJ, bar, 1st dance, etc.) as well and only had 80 guests. We invited 100 but anticipated 80 since DH’s family is also out of the country. Ultimately, my goal number was 80 because that was a comfortable number for our venue. I think you can still have a traditional wedding with less than 100 people without a problem, just make sure your venue is not too big and no one will find it odd. A venue for 150 with only 50 people will look odd.
Post # 6
We had the whole big wedding and only had 65 guests! It was AWESOME. Our guest list was strictly family and close friends, we knew everyone and because the list was so small, we got to talk to everyone individually. It was nice to be able to spend a little one-on-one time with everyone.
Post # 7
I had a small wedding – 80 guests – on a Sunday afternoon that went in to early Sunday evening and had a fabulous time! My first wedding, when I was 22 years old, was a big Polish blowout with 250 guests, most of whom I didn’t say more than “thank you” to the entire night. My small wedding, with close family and friends, was so much fun. We ate, drank, danced with everyone, took pictures with the kids, wandered the grounds. The atmosphere is different with a small wedding but, for me, it felt more intimate and personal. Have a great time planning and enjoy your day!
Post # 8
Yep we did it all like you are planning w/ 70 guests & it was on a Sunday! Don’t worry about it, 70 is actually bigger then you think 🙂
Post # 9
It’s going to be awesome! 😀
Post # 10
We had 60 people at our at-home reception. (The ceremony, in MA, was even smaller, with only a dozen guests.) We had music, dancing, even a DIY fauxtobooth. And we are still getting comments about how much fun it was.
Post # 11
Don’t worry about a thing! The RIGHT people will be there with you to help you celebrate your union. This day is about you and the love of your life. The guest list shouldn’t get you down.
I’m having a destination wedding. I sent out my invites and everything, but it looks like no one will be joining us. Am I sad? Maybe a little. Will I still have a great time and enjoy my Weddingmoon? YES, YES, YES!!!!!!!!
Hope you feel better soon
Post # 12
We are having a small wedding, only 65 guests and I wouldnt have it any other way! Its going to be cozy and intimate and I cant wait.
Post # 13
No worries, we’re inviting about 70 and expecting 50-60. I think people will still have fun and you’ll get a chance to have a personal chat with each of your guests! I’m thrilled that we can spend more on each guest because of a smaller invite list.
Post # 14
mine is smallish too…about 80 people…but we’re going all out as far as food and open bar and a photo booth. i decided in the beginning that i would rather have a small wedding with more stuff than more people with less stuff with the budget that i have. and anyway, mine is kind of a destination so it just kind of turned out that way also.
Post # 15
Is 80 really considered small??? That’s how many I have coming and it sounds like a mid-size to me. It breaks into 9 tables so I don’t consider that small at all!
You’re going to get to talk to everyone! And still have some time to dance. I think between 70 and 90 is the perfect size for a wedding. But I’m biased I suppose.
Post # 16
Getting married next Saturday! Final guest count: 63!
And yes, we are doing the whole shebang (albeit on a budget). We’re having a wedding ceremony, a welcome reception the night before, shuttling our guests to and from the wedding, and having a full lunch reception with cake, buffet, beer/wine/champagne bar, and Out of Town bags. We have an awesome photographer, 6 people in our bridal party, favors, etc etc etc.
Its going to be awesome. I worked on my seating chart last night and realized I know almost every single person there (except 6 of FI’s distant relatives) really well. So I got really excited while arranging the tables because I knew for sure which guests would get along with whom. The chart came together in 30 minutes and I’m really happy with it.
Most of all, I’m just really excited to see my friends and family in one place and know I will have plenty of time to see everyone and catch up during the weekend.
Embrace it, enjoy it! I chose a small wedding not only for monetary reasons but because I always had the best time at small afternoon weddings. The bigger, traditional nighttime weddings were always so exhausting and impersonal to me. I am stoked for my wedding and you should be too!