Post # 1
My fiancee and I have agreed to a very small wedding, consisting of immediate family only so there will be 10 people total (us included). Due to family members’ busy schedules next year, as well as our own busy schedules, I’m thinking maybe June (or even May) would be a good time to get married, and given that it’s almost January, do you guys think this is doable? Where do we begin with planning/booking? We’re already in talks with a priest, but that’s about the only step we’ve taken so far. Do we really have much to plan since it’ll be just the 10 of us? We want a simple, non-church wedding proceeded by dinner with family. Does anyone have any “To Do” lists they can share?
Post # 3
I think its completely doable! Since it will be small and just dinner afterwards. You can definity pull that off!
Post # 4
Totally doable! My cousins put together a small but fabulous wedding, about 30 people at a condo right on the beach, in about 2 months on a tight budget. You can do it! 🙂
Post # 5
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
My friend planned her small (50 person) wedding in 4 months (late January-late May), so yes, it can be done, and done well! First, figure out what you want. City hall and lunch/dinner? Ceremony venue and sunday brunch? Etc. then nail down the “where” for the ceremony and post-ceremony fun. This will give you your date and place, which all other vendors and decisions will be based off of. If you want a photographer, book that vendor next, as they book up quickly. The rest is just details.
Post # 6
i think you can do it! I planned my wedding in 5 months and we had 120 guests…
I’d first start with where you physically want to get married – i’d check out public parks in your area or maybe some gardens?- follow that up with where you want to gather afterwards. we had our rehearsal dinner at Maggianos (its an italian chain owned by cheesecake factory) and they had a lovely private room for us that would be perfect for your scenario. That way you can still do a nice family style dinner, have an open bar if you choose and have everyone in a private space.
from there you can concentrate on all the little details that will make your wedding come together.
Post # 7
totally doable! My best friend planned a large wedding for 200 people in just under 3 months! It can be done- you just have to be organized 🙂
Post # 8
It’s do-able! I just started planning two days ago (who comes up with winter engagments anyway?!) and I have already got the venue I want (albiet I told them ANY Friday in July or August and they have two). Mine will also be a small wedding.
All I can say is plan, plan, plan right away!
Post # 9
Very doable! I planned my wedding in under 3 months and we had about 90 guests.
Post # 10
Definitely doable! I planned ours in 5 months and had 20 guests at the ceremony and 130 at the reception. Good luck!!
Post # 11
Rock it out!
Martha Stewart weddings has a big list, but I feel as though your wedding is so low key that you won’t have to carry the big burden that a larger wedding may entail.
Dress/shoes/jewlery/hair makeup ( and if you have any bridesmaids- the same for them. don’t forget your future hubby and his looks as well)
Food/restaurant- book rooms/table and pick menu or let guests choose what they would prefer
Flowers- optional but something to look into . Your local grocery will sell lovely flowers and also depending on where you live you can pick some wild or locally grown
table setting- Im guessing the restaurant has most of it taken care of, ask if you can add personal touches should you choose.
ceremony- Pick the space- be sure to consider seating ( if long ceremony) and also accecibility/parking
officant/pastor/etc- important , unless you want to do the whole thing at the courthouse and just celebrate after
marriage licence- usually needed a certain amount of days in advance, check you your local courthouse.
Favors- completely optional
honeymoon- if you choose to travel or go on one at all- look into booking flights, hotels, cars etc etc
invitations- I would get them out at a few months notice, doesn’t have to be ultra formal if its just ten or so people.
thank you cards- for when the wedding is over.
Post # 12
@Eva Peron: thanks so much! this is great. having a list like this makes planning seem less overwhelming.
and thanks to everyone else! i guess 6 months is doable!!
so i guess the next steps are: book the venue and book the photographer?
Post # 13
My wedding was just us and our parents. I probably could’ve done it in 6 months. What dragged it out to 14 months for me was that I found the perfect venue for a Christmas time wedding, and it was already October of 2010. The b&b was already booked for the entire week of Christmas that year, so I opted for the following Christmas.
Post # 14
@cambridgebee: Yup, get your venue and photographer pronto! Then order your dress, since they can take a while.
Post # 15
Would like to echo the others and say totally doable. I’m also planning mine in less than 3 months. Originally we were going to have about 7 months, but due to my Fiance being in the military and time off only being somewhat under our control, we decided to move it to his already scheduled leave time.
I’ve found moving it up (and having less time) has actually made things easier – you HAVE to be decisive, that’s for sure! Also, I’ve found that vendors have been super accomodating. If they’re available, they’re willing to negotiate lower prices because if they haven’t booked something by now, chances are they won’t be doing so in the next few months, so they’ll likely give you a good deal.
You may have to buy a dress off the rack too, which sounds potentially stressful, but I found a dress I LOVE and while it is the sample, it is in great condition and I know it will be perfect after my final fitting. Plus it’s a heck of a lot cheaper than what I would have normally paid!
One other thing I’ve done is created a wedding website to ask people to RSVP online, so that way, they can let me know as soon as they get the invite, and not have to remember to mail it back (which could take a bit longer, especially if they forget and don’t do it right away).
The best part of it all? You’ll be married to the man of your dreams in a matter of months! 🙂
Post # 16
We pulled off our dream wedding in 3 months, and we had about 120 guests and a modest budget. I think you can definitely do it! Just stay organized (spreadsheets were my best friend!) and steadily knock it out! The best part? You’ll be married before you know it!
We just knocked out our biggies in this order: Venue, photog, dress, caterer, florist, rentals. It was honestly a relief to plan it in a short amount of time because I didn’t have forever to stress or spend too much money 🙂