- 1 year ago
- Wedding: City, State
Hi Bees, my SO is working on designing the ring! We’ve been very open in conversation about the engagement/wedding process. I suppose you can say we’re already “engaged”, because we know we’re getting married. I guess I’ll let him have his moment with the proposal. 😉
We’re aiming for a wedding in late fall or early winter 2020. We’ve seen the venue we like and will finalize it as soon as we’re officially engaged and talk to the essential people about dates. So, we are starting to build our budget accordingly. You can never plan too early.
I’ve been married before. I would happily elope, but I think that’s off the table for for my SO. He wants his family there, which I understand.
That being said, we both have decently-sized families. I would feel a certain amount of guilt about not inviting the entirety of mine. I think there would be hurt feelings if I cut the list after first cousins, and I know there would be if I cut it after aunts and uncles. My ideal guest list would be 60 or less for budget purposes, but my family is over 35 people alone, and I know they would all come. That’s what my family does. Smothers each other with love. Lol. If we did my family and SO’s we might make it at 60, but I have friends that may as well be family that I will want to invite. There’s no question about it. I’m already thinking no children under 12 with the exception of my SO’s niece and nephew, but that would cut half of my second cousins and not the other half. I don’t think I can or should split families.
Where did you make the cut? How did you narrow down your numbers? If my parents or SO’s parents balked at the cuts, is it appropriate to tell them that it’s out of the budget but they can contribute if it’s important to them?
OH. And parents’ friends. My parents have so many friends. Do I give them an allotment? Not allow any at all?