Post # 1
I’m not sure what to do.. I have always wanted a small wedding but my fiance and I both have large families and lots of extended family. So we decided to have a wedding of approx 150 people. I don’t want any small children to be there (with the exception of my neice and 2 nephews OR if someone has an infant) On the invitations that we sent out I specified Mr & Mrs ______, and if a child was invited I specified the name (because I invited a few of my cousins) so on those invitations I specified Mr & Mrs ____ and ______. So far I have had about 6 people RSVP saying that they will be attending and also bringing ALL of their children!! Which I think is completely rude. This is really stressing me out because there are people that we didn’t invite that we really wanted to but can’t becasue of limited space. What is the correct way to deal with this without being rude and without causing a big deal?? Or do I just suck it up and let them bring their families even if they weren’t invited??
Post # 3
Completely rude. You have to call them.
I just don’t get it! Weren’t these moms brides just a few years ago? Don’t they remember not wanting kids or how expensive everything is?
Post # 4
Agreed. You have to call them up and explain that you are sorry, but you haven’t the room to accomodate the children, and hope they are still able to make it but understand if they aren’t.
Post # 5
I am having the same exact problem…My wedding is even smaller…40 people max and a lot of my Fiance relatives just bluntly stated that the kids are coming. What even worse they are bringing them all the way from South America and we are talking about children I am talking about teenagers. SO RUDE….
Post # 6
Some people don’t understand wedding etiquette of “Mrs. & Mrs” only being on an invitation. I’d politely call them and explain that children are not invited, only the parents. I’d leave out the budgeting reason.
We are also having a no childern wedding. We haven’t sent out invites yet but made the rule that my Fiance calls his friends/family and I call my friends/family if this situation arises.
But yes, you need to address the issue.
Post # 7
Ugh! I feel for ya!!! We wanted to keep our wedding very small, about 35 to 50 people. It has ballooned up to 68 because people have responded that they’re bringing uninvited children (mostly teenagers). I don’t mind infants or small children, but teens eat a LOT of food and we have to pay a full adult price for them. It’s really driving up our costs unexpectedly. I just think it’s rude to assume you can bring as many people with you as you want to a wedding!!!
Post # 8
I wanted a non kids wedding and I have 3 girls and his brother & sisters has kids and everyone else does too so I couldnt exclude them. We started off with 32 kids coming ot a wedding that was for 110 but ended up only having around 15 kids. I was so scared that I was going ot be a pissed off bride but it went well. I had the dj announce no kids were allowed to go anywhere without a parent and they listened. If you have no luck in not having kids at your wedding make sure you put your foot down on how its going to roll with kids being there.
Post # 9
I just found out that there are three extra kids coming to mine in a couple of weeks. The only reason we found out is because we called the attendees about SOMETHING ELSE and they casually mentioned that so and so would be with them. It amazes me how rude people are. (That said, I am trying to bail on a wedding this weekend because I am just too exhausted getting ready for mine and I need a night off from wedding crap. So it goes both ways, I suppose.)
I would call them and tell them you don’t have the space, hence the ____ on their RSVP card. It’s not like it’s so close that they can’t get a babysitter, you know?
Post # 10
Call them up and tell them no kids invited.
Post # 11
thanks for the imput guys..
My sister told me that this would be an issue but I never dreamt it would be SUCH a big deal for people to bring their kids with them!! Its not that I don’t like kids and don’t want them to come, its just the only wy I know to keep the wedding number down, and so far its not working!!
First thing this morning I woke up with a text from my aunt (I invited her and my uncle and their oldest daughter [not because I wanted to but because my mom thought I should]) So she said that they will be bring all three of their kids! I don’t want to be rude or offend them.. its so frustrating! I replied by saying “I didn’t realized you were all invited but we’ll try to make room for everyone.. Thanks for letting me know! :)”
One thing that I’m dreading is that if people come with their kids without letting me know. Its just messed up.. Sorry for the rant, its good to get it off my chest 😛
Post # 12
Don’t let them do it. Call them up (or if it’s a relative, ask your mom or Future Mother-In-Law to do it) and politely say that the space can’t accommodate all the kids. Don’t let them get away with it!