(Closed) small wedding single guests?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
4336 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Really, if there is no dancing, then I would say that half the point of bringing a date doesn’t exist. It’s not a big deal to sit at a wedding ceremony and then eat a meal without having a date by your side.

So, yes you can invite single people without dates. The unfair thing does seem to be your Fiance letting his friends bring dates, and you not letting yours, so you might want to sit down with him and have a heart-to-heart about what you guys want the size of your wedding to be, and why does he think his friends need to bring dates.

Post # 4
7296 posts
Busy Beekeeper

well, if i understand you correctly, your fiance is letting his guests bring dates?  if yes, then i think it might be rude if only the people you invite are not allowed.  Can you talk to your fiance about not inviting dates on his side too?  

Post # 5
3461 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Is it local for everyone?  Does everyone know other people?  Does single mean not in a long-term relationship?  Are you drawing the same line for your guests and his guests? 

If all yeses, then likely no problems.  If some of those are nos, I wouldn’t say it’s rude not to invite them as single (well, it depends – if someone is engaged I do personally think it’s rude), but it depends how much having a small wedding matters for you as compared to making everyone feel comfortable and enjoying themselves at it.

Post # 6
1501 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

You two need to sit down and discuss the cut off point. It needs to be the same for both sides.

We invited people single, but everyone should know at least 1 other person there. We did if they are engaged or long term relationship the other half is invited, but if they are newly dating then no plus one.

Post # 7
7311 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

It sounds like the two of you are not on the same page about the kind of day you want to have and the number of guests you want at your wedding. I would start with that conversation, and then talk about whether you want 35 strangers attending your wedding when you could have 35 friends and family using those slots instead.

Post # 8
106 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

It is totally fine to invite just the guest with no date as long as they aren’t in a relationship. We invited <50 people, and invited the single people without a date (and when they asked to bring one, we said no). We missed that someone had been dating a girl for several months (he lived out of town), so when he asked, we apologized for our mistake and said yes. No one complained – especially when we pointed out it was a small wedding.

I recommend finding out if your FI’s +1’s are actually dating, or just theoretical. You definitely need to be on the same page. Sounds like more importantly you think that it’s an 80-person wedding, and he thinks it’s an 80-each wedding. I’d clear that up quick!

Post # 10
2246 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011


I would invite them on their own. But if they want to bring a guest then its their choice.

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