Small Wedding Tips or Advice?

posted 1 year ago in Beehive
Post # 2
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Hey I’m having my small wedding in September too! Just us and about 12 guests (and our 4 dogs!). We only got engaged a month ago but as we are having such a tiny wedding planning has all gone very smoothly so far haha. Where are you having yours? 

Post # 4
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Helper bee

I’m also having a small wedding in September. Intially we wanted to elope but now it’ll be 8 of us (including me & FH) in a very pretty, rural part of the UK.

It’s all organised and booked (and partially paid for), I just need to work out what to do between the lunch and dinner, especially if it rains…. 😑

Post # 5
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: September 2018

wilkensbee :  how lovely! There’s definitely something very romantic about a fall wedding. We live in wales but are getting married on Isle of Skye in Scotland (we got engaged in Scotland). So far the registrar is booked, the accommodation (a tiny thatched cottage), and the photographer. I’ve also got my dress which was the only one I even tried on so that was easy! Still need to sort out flowers, a cake and what do to with hair/makeup. Have you got much left to plan? I’m pretty laid back about it all. The weather is typically pretty all over the place in Scotland so I’m expecting rain haha

Post # 8
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Blushing bee

I’m doing something similar – 11 people including us. 

We are getting ready at a hotel where we will have the dinner and the ceremony is elsehwere about 25 minutes away.   The best tip I have so far – from the photographer – is to have a first look at the hotel and then the whole group share the limo out to the ceremony venue.  Makes things more intimate and less weird than having 9 people milling about alone at the cermony place keeping us separate.  

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

We had a tiny ~10person wedding on the side of a cliff through mytinywedding. It was great for our preferences. We rented a big cabin for everyone to celebrate in. We did scratch made foods, DIY invites, hung out and played board games the rest of the night. It was great. I wish I would have gone with my fave dress pick regardless of how much it would have been all over the ground- it had pockets. Also maybe instead, cupcakes. So much cake that no one wanted to eat after the BBQ. I wish we would have spent more time off work together after, too. We were exhaustedddd.

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2019

wilkensbee :  this sounds so fun and romantic! I’m hoping for a smaller sized wedding in Colorado as well. I’m not even officially engaged yet, but I saw the CO part and had to comment! Colorado is beautiful in fall and being in September you’ll probably miss the rain and snow so that’s good.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

We had two wedding. One small wedding with 12 people and 5 weeks later one big destination wedding. My husband and I are from different countries so this worked out perfect for us. 

For our civil ceremony my parents came to the States and we had only our parents, siblings, in laws and one grandmother. We didn’t make big plans for that day but it ended up being amazing. We choose to get married on a Friday at 2.45 at Boston City Hall. I hired a photographer for only two hours and used a instant Polaroid camera for the rest of the day. My Father-In-Law rented a private room of a very nice Italian Restaurant. We didn’t decorate the room at all. It was perfect as it was. The dinner was at 7.30 pm.

The day before the ceremony I bought some flowers from downtown and I made my own bouquet and my husband’s boutonniere. I did my own hair but hired a mua which was a huge mistake! I hated my make up so bad. I did no research on it and just found someone on groupon. She did airbrush on me and it was horrible. I washed my face right after the ceremony. (i shouldn’t have left home with that make up 🙁 ) I wore Tinsley gown from bhldn with was also butchered by the tailor. Those two sucked! Oh well… One hour before the ceremony, everyone met at a park near the city hall for the pictures and we all walked to the building. It was a very nice sunny day and the city was full of tourists so it was very nice to hear nice wishes from all those strangers. Before the ceremony, the officiant asked us if we wanted exchange vows and/or rings. We chose not to. The ceremony took about 15 minutes. After the ceremony I wanted to do the rice throwing but we were not allowed to do it because it would make the street dirty, which totally makes sense. Instead, my SIL bought paper party horns and we blew them after the ceremony in front of the building. That was FUN 🙂 After the ceremony we went to our favorite neighborhood bar and got some drinks. Our photographer was able capture the day while we were at the bar. After he left we just used Polaroid and our cameras. Before the dinner I changed into Mara Jumpsuit from bhldn. We didn’t have any first dance, speeches, cake. It was just enjoying each others company and enjoying our meal. The restaurant had a very nice music playing. After the dinner, all siblings and us went to the bar of the hotel that we were going to stay. There, we met some friends. At the end of of the night I throw my bouquet to the only single girlfriend that was with us. 

I really loved the Polaroid photos. We chose our favorites and I turned them into a DIY Polaroid frame.  

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

Oh congratulatiions OP!  We had a small wedding, 22 years ago now, (WOW).  It was so lovely.  We married in Las Vegas in a beautiful chapel.  It was done all in Victorian decor – it was so pretty.  So of course the officiant was part of the deal.  We suppled the little bubbles for us coming out the chapel.  We decided to walk down the aisle together.  They played Kenny G for us at the chapel.  A small 5 step if I recall tiny little staircase sat at the exit of the bride’s getting ready room.  So I came out onto the top step and now Hubby was at the bottom and we went down together.  And there were tears in his eyes when he saw me.

We reserved a room at an Olive Garden and it was wonderful.  One long table plus a small table where I put the cake I made.  I have made very fancy cakes and so it was kinda’ charming that my cake came out a bit crooked.  It was 2 tiers, heart shaped in pink frosting (our colors were pink and gray) with the lovely Wilton premade roses.

We did tuxes and I found the most beautiful ivory tea length dress in ALL sequins, oh it’s a dreamy dress. 

I made little favors out of these heart shaped stiffened lace boxes and used fllowers from our own gardens for the table.  No photographer, but of course everyone took pictures.  I did go all out on flowers though, they are a huge part of my life.  Full bouquet, long trailing delectible thing in pink roses and baby’s breath.  I had a wrist corsage for my daughter, little neice in law, and corsages for the three Moms (complicated story) plus a bouquet for my Maid/Matron of Honor and of course all the gentleman bout’ers too.

As this wasn’t either of ours’ first marriages, I opted rather than a veil, to do a small thin wreath, using tiny pink rosebuds and ribbons and pearls.  It gave just enough pretty and “bride” look down my hair in the back, and pretty on top.

We just told everyone (20 people) to just order anything they wanted and to this day I don’t know who paid, we would have but I suspect my new Father-In-Law paid that bill. No games or “wedding activities”, just family and friends and it was magical.

I remember thinking, ok, what are the most important things to me and decided flowers. Hubby didn’t have any particular preferences.  So I put the money big time into the flowers, found my dress for 100.00 at Burlington of all places, already had the shoes and made my wreath/veil and favors and flowers (mason jars wrapped in lace) for the table decor.

I had told my hubby that there would only be two occasions I would expect him in a suit, our wedding and any funerals.  (We do not live a dressy lifestyle, and moved very shortly to a semi rural area and have loved the country life) so I got him as his wedding gift suspenders with adorable pigs all over them to wear on our Day.  It was such a hit!

So for a tip I would say, each of you pick one thing that maybe means more to you, whether it be a photog or flowers or the cake, or the beverages, or favors, or?? And then, play that up a lot and go easier on the other stuff.

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