Post # 1
A few months ago my fiance and I decided to cancel our big wedding we had planned for June of next year and just get married in December. Theres no turning back now, we’ve cancelled the venue, changed the date for the photographer, gotten deposits back and everything.
We dont want to hear everyones opinions on it, because lord knows everyones got one. We’ve been going under the rouse of having a joint birthday party for us in late December. My photographer has since told us that 2 pm would be the latest she would suggest for a ceremony for that time of year (it’s pitch black at 4 pm!).
Im just debating if we should tell family a month or so before the wedding so they can book time off work & make sure they can be there. His family is notorius for bgeing late for events, and if they think its just a birthday, they will DEFINATELY be late.
Post # 3
Definitely send invitations. I personally would send them sooner rather than later.
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Since you can pretty much count on them being late if they think it’s simply a birthday party, you have to ask yourself what matters more. Does it matter more to make it a surprise and avoid the inevitable comments, or does it matter more to assure that his family attends in time to actually witness the ceremony?
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
I’d send wedding invitations so people take it seriously.
Post # 6
I’d send invites so people show up on time!
Post # 7
@FutureMrsA2014: I would send invites even though it sounds like your sanity may suffer. Tell them to stifle the comments!
Post # 8
@LilRhodyGem: I may have to risk it!
Post # 9
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@FutureMrsA2014: Send invitations for the birthday party and ask them to be there 30 minutes to an hour before you actually need them there so if they run late there is a better chance of them being on time. Sending invites shows that the party is a bug deal so hoepfully they won’t take a pass. Otherwise, it’s time to let the cat out of the bag and tell them it’s actually a wedding.