Post # 1
We are planning on having a very small wedding 2 weeks before a very large reception. Originally, we were going to go away to get married, but my future mother-on-law said “no” because she couldn’t afford to attend and it didn’t fit into everyone’s schedules. The reception is going to have around 300 people, I do NOT want to have that many people at my ceremony (which I see as an intimate, personal thing). Now that we are going to have to have a ceremony more local, we are going to invite immediate family. Since we are going to have a full blown reception 2 weeks later, does anyone have suggestions on what I can do for the people who attend the ceremony (it’s an evening ceremony)?
Post # 3
If you’re having the ceremony at a meal time, your guests will probably expect a meal. If it’s later in the evening (like 8pm) then you can do a coffee and cake reception/light apps & champagne/etc…
Personally, I wouldn’t do a huge reception weeks after a ceremony. It’s like you’re telling all those other people that you want a gift from them but they weren’t important enough to be invited to the ceremony in the first place. A reception is a thank you to all the guests who came to witness the ceremony.
I do understand wanting your ceremony to be personal and intimate though… :/
Post # 4
@DaneLady: LOL, I would personally prefer not to do a big reception at all, but something my future MOL asked for, as well.
Post # 5
i don’t think there is anything wrong with the way you are doing it – lots of people get married and throw a party later. why not opt for a little backyard BBQ or finger foods at your house or your parents house for a few hours after the ceremony? (try for your parents house so you and your husband and dip out early if you want)
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Maybe you can go to a local restaurant for dinner? It can be as casual or fancy as you’d like. Tapas would probably work well. A coffee and cake thing at a local bakery may work well for a late evening thing, or maybe just meeting up with everyone for a celebratory drink before heading home to bask in your just married bliss?
Post # 7
@Pickloper: I think that sounds like a great idea as I am having a destination wedding. It upset a lot of people that couldn’t afford to be there… My best friend from high school said she cried for two days, so now we are doing an after-reception like you are. Also, I couldn’t imagine throwing a reception for 300 people! I applaud you!
As far as your question, that is something I am struggling with as well. Since it’s in Maui, we are considering a small, poolside barbecue as my Fiance LOVES to barbecue for people. But also, people have suggested renting a private room in a restaurant which makes things easy, so I am researching that as we speak. =)