Post # 1
After nearly having a nervous breakdown trying to plan this enormous wedding for this past October … I decided to heck with it. I post-poned it and set a date in March for a very small, intimate ceremony on the beach.
Share your stories of why you decided to have a small ceremony! Was the stress too much? Did everyone have an opinion? Would it cost too much? Was a large wedding just NOT what you wanted? Let’s hear it!
Post # 3
I decided to have a small wedding because I wanted to remember every person that came. I had attended a wedding of 200 people and the bride and groom never acknowledged me. It really hurt. I decided that I did not want to do that. I wanted to dance with every person, hug every person, and thank every person for coming. Everyone had opinions of course but I don;t think anymore than a large wedding. You have to remember that your opinion matters the most. I had invited about 88 people. 85 RSVP yes and on the day of 70 showed. To me, it was the perfect amount of people and everyone had so much fun! It was better financially and the people we really wanted there were there. I would definitely recommend a small wedding.
Post # 4
I wish I could have a small wedding! I’m so jealous. But I had to pick a guy whose family is almost as large as mine… 😛
Post # 5
I LOVED how you said you wanted to remember and spend time with every person there! I think that shows a lot about your character that you wanted EVERYONE to feel special on YOUR day. You didn’t just think of yourself, and I think that is wonderful!
Post # 6
I have a very small family myself, but my FI’s family is HUGE. His mother has 13 brothers and sisters, and his father has 19. It would have been a large wedding to say the least. It took a long time to come to the conclusion, and I’m sure some feelings have been hurt (which sucks), but we had to do what we had to do. And I believe the people that truly love us will wish us the best either way.
Post # 7
@jennaanne: You are so sweet! Thank you!
Post # 8
We’re inviting around 68 people, hoping for only 50 to turn out. I just don’t want a big wedding, as I have super anxiety and didn’t want to have to go stand up in front of a bunch of people. I wanted it to be intimate and comfortable. I chose a beach wedding, too, for this very reason.
Post # 9
We are having a small wedding also. I wanted (because he didnt care) an intimate wedding. We are inviting about 90 people, and expecting maybe 70 ish to show. I just want to remember everyone that shows and I want to be able to acknowledge every sngle person that would be there. Especially because its a destination wedding..
Post # 10
I’m having around 50 people come, but most likely less. I’m so glad, too. =]
Post # 11
We had a small wedding. The ceremony was immediate family only + wedding party + officiant for a whopping 20 people. For the reception, we limited it to inviting our aunts and uncles, first cousins, and friends. Total invited was around 180, since a lot of people were international and out of state, we had 132 RSVP and show up. Best part was that we had nobody RSVP and then no show.
I wanted a super small wedding since I wanted everyone there to be happy for us, supportive, etc. I’ve been to weddings where the bride and groom had no idea who some tables were since they were friends of the parents or some old neighbor that the mom insisted on inviting. (Hubs and I are both Asian and it runs in our tradition to invite the whole freaking village and the one down the river).
Post # 12
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
We wanted to share our wedding with the people who really matter and are our biggest supporters, not the ones we talk to twice a year at family gatherings or “have” to invite for ettiquette’s sake. And we wanted to be able to pamper our guests while still keeping a 20% house downpayment and a 6 month’s salary reserve fund in our savings account.
Post # 13
@vickyness: Lol, I loved that last line you added in there!
It’s good to know that I’m not the only one that will be very happy to have a small wedding. Thanks for sharing girls! 🙂
Post # 14
I’m inviting 60 but will probably have way less attending. I wanted a small wedding to keep it simple, because of some family drama, and because my life is just too busy to plan a big huge wedding. Plus, I’ve always wanted a destination wedding!
Post # 15
We are inviting about 30 and expecting about 20. We didn’t want a ton of people and would have been happy with even less than we are inviting, but there really is no one else we can leave out. We wanted a more intimate feel and to have a better experience with fewer people rather than to have to spend less per person, particularly since most of our guests are traveling. (For example, rather than have 50 people and one meal, we are having all guests at the rehersal dinner, reception, and a morning after brunch.)
Post # 16
I’m inviting 120, but I’m expecting 100 or less. I wanted a smaller wedding to keep an intimate feel and to help save money.