(Closed) Small Weddings: Vendors Taking You Seriously.

posted 9 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Bumble bee

Oh wow. I’m definately not a "small wedding" bride (we have about 270 on our guest list!) but I think this is just rude! I mean, a gig is a gig, right? I don’t know if I would even want him to be my DJ after that!

Post # 4
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Blushing bee

Are you sure it’s the size that making him behave this way? It sounds like he’s just grown too much of an ego for his own good. If he didn’t want to drive all that way, why did he agree to do it in the first place?!

Don’t worry about the size. Like august15bride said, a gig’s a gig, and most everyone else will see it this way. Find someone else who really wants to help make your wedding day awesome, and isn’t all *yawn* about getting paid.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010 - The Tower Club

I think this guy showed you his "true colors" and did you a favor.

In two days I’ve met with two florists, and they couldn’t have been more different. Both of them regularly do weddings with floral budgets of $50k and more, and the first guy treated us wonderfully even though it was clear that we are paying less than 10% of that. The second just tried to up-sell everything and kept saying how "easy" ours was going to be because "it’s not like you need very much stuff anyway, it’s only 90 people." It’s obvious who will get our business.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010 - The Pierre Hotel

Oh goodness!  Sorry you had a bad experience with the DJ (especially since you had high hopes about him).  At least you found out about his attitude before signing with him.  I agree with the previous posters; the vendor you end up going with should be open and willing to work with you for your day, no matter how big or small the guestlist.  FH and I are having a medium-sized wedding (~100ppl) and did come into some challenges with guest minimums and venue spaces, but this was a pure numbers rule thing they had, not a personal affront (although it still sucked).  You deserve the best – go with someone who will be happy to have your business! Good luck!

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I’m having the same issue with finding a photographer! We’re having a small (75ppl) wedding from 11am- 4pm on a Saturday in July. First of all, it was either my dream caterer on that day & time or waiting another year. This is my chosen day & time, so deal with it. The only vendor that I’d bend for is my caterer.

Anyway… I’m still willing to pay for 8 hours, but no one is interested once I say what time my ceremony is. It’s making me nuts. One offered me a package from 10am-2pm so she could keep her evening/afternoon open for a larger wedding. What!? No! I want photos taken after the reception. Also, how is this any different than a nighttime wedding? I’m paying for 8 hours! Photog still gets paid & gets home earlier than usual- score! I swear when she said larger she really meant "real".

Sorry for the rant. Basically, I understand your frustration. I say cut those vendors loose, they’re probably going to be more trouble than they’re worth. You want to have good relationships with all your vendors, so just keep looking!

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Good luck to you too! Oh I love the hive– there’s always support & there’s always someone thats stuck w/ the same (or similar) situation!

I’m thissssclose to going to an art school & grabbing a student for the day. They are still passionate about the art & aren’t all about the benjamins. I’m looking for mini pieces of artwork that capture the moment… the last thing I want is to have a photographer rush me because he/she has an afternoon wedding to get to.

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2008

I agree with the person who said this guy did you a favor.  What a jerk.  I would have dropped him right that very minute.

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Better to find out now than a few weeks before your wedding.  I’m sorry that he was so unprofessional.  I don’t think it had to do with the size of your wedding, but who knows?  We are also having a small wedding and so far our vendors have been pretty good about it.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

We had a caterer who kept blowing us off.  After talking to our photographer, we learned that a lot of people in our area will string you along until the last possible second, so they can make a bigger sale.  I’ve seen weddings in Tahoe that cost hundreds of thousnads of dollars featured in wedding magazines or on wedding websites.  With a wedding of only 57 people, there was no way we could even compare to these huge blowouts!

I think vendors who do that are not only bad with business, they’re also kinda of jerks.  Imo, if they wanted your business, they would WORK for it.  And they wouldn’t treat you like you’re second class just because they think something something bigger and better will come along.  We ended up getting a different caterer, and it turned out for the best.  Sure she wasn’t our first choice, but her food was great, she always returned our phone calls, and she was really nice to us.  Unlike some jerks…  🙂

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Wow!  I hate to think what they would think of our wedding–about 15 guests!  Of course, we’re not doing a lot of vendors for the wedding itself, but our photographer had no issues with doing a small wedding, so long as we were willing to pay his hourly rate.  He even worked with us on stuff like getting formals of all of the attendees, not just the Bridal Party.  Our florist was willing to work with us on creating two bridal bouquets, a Maid/Matron of Honor bouquet, and a bout, and even delivering them to our venue.  And our luncheon venue (which does not yet even know we are a wedding) was happy to have us.  Their private dining room is small anyway, so we were not competing with larger weddings.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I’m sorry you’re having trouble with vendors taking you seriously. It makes a little more sense to me that a caterer would string you along for awhile since a caterer gets paid more the more people who eat, but a d.j. gets paid the same no matter the number of people who dance. Actually, it might be a possibility that he didn’t want to take your gig because you said the music wasn’t as important to you? Maybe he was looking for a little more enthusiasm? After all, he has chosen to provide music for events as his job. He obviously thinks it’s pretty important. 

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