Post # 1
I think I am starting to get ring envy.
My fiance and I found my ring in Brighton, England at an antique store. We were both instantly attracted to it. I absolutely love love love the setting and adore the ring with all my heart. But when I came home to Boston I started to get a little size envy. The rings here are insanely huge. Everything I have seen since I got back home looks a lot larger.
I recently got the ring appraised and the rock itself is .6 carat, E color, ideal cut, IF which was a major happy surprise. It made me feel a lot better about it’s size, but sometimes when I see a big one I get a little twinge of size envy.
I feel silly about this “small” issue but I’m not yet at the point where I need to buy a giant SUV to compensate if you know what I mean.
What do you guys think? Would you rather a have perfect little rock or big one with inclusions?
Post # 3
I think it is better to have a more perfect smaller diamond with less flaws than a big diamond with inclusions and bad color.
Post # 4
I would keep the small diamond if I were you. If you really want a bigger diamond, I would save a bit of money here and there to put towards a larger ring.. in my opinion (which is mine, maybe not everyones) its okay to sacrifice a little in quality but not a whole lot. That being said, if you’d rather a larger imperfect diamond, that is YOUR choice
Post # 5
I don’t think you need to worry about it, vintage rings come with their own charm. my Fiance gave me is Oma’s ring (oma = grandma in german) and it’s a big stone but it’s not a dimond. I don’t think you need to worry about the size of your ring, if you both love it, and if it fits who you are, then you shouldn’t worry, I love my ring more because it’s not “run of the mill” embrace your ring it’s your ring your love, it doesn’t matter the size of it….
Post # 6
It depends. My ring has inclusions, but you can’t see them and the cut and color are excellent. So to me, it was the right diamond, but others might not agree. Personally I would rather have the bigger rock, as long as it sparkles and doesn’t look yellow.
But don’t feel bad about what other people have. They may have a big rock and an unhappy relationship. Plus you will always lose if you try to keep up with the joneses because someone will always have a bigger version. As long as the ring suits your lifestyle and you love it, I think you made the right decision. If it’s possible to upgrade the stone, think about that down the road for an anniversary maybe.
Post # 7
I love my perfect little rock … and most of all I really love who gave it to me and how we found it.
Brighton is a victorian era beach town and this is the store we found my ring at: http://www.fidra.com/regents.html
@Raine Monkey: That’s awesome! I kept oggling the antique rings, I could have bought them all — funny thing is that most of the rings on display had gemstone centers not diamond. The opal rings were to die for.
Post # 8
I would rather have a smaller one that is better quality.
Post # 9
I don’t see one over the other being better. I think they are all kind of the same, just different.
Post # 10
I think you should keep the one you have because it is YOURS! For that reason I’ll always keep the one that is mine because my Darling Husband picked it out. He did the same as you guys and got a very high quality stone. It is 1ct. If it were me doing all the deciding at that time, I don’t know for sure I would have done the same? I definitely would want a stone that had an excellent cut, but if I couldn’t see the difference between a 1ct E, VVS2 and a 1.3ct G, VS2 I don’t know that I wouldn’t have gone with the bigger stone. I absolutely love that my Darling Husband wanted to get me something perfect though and I’d never want to give it up.
Post # 11
Assuming you’re talking about what you specifically can afford (and not insinuating that all large diamonds have inclusions), it really depends if the flaws are glaringly obvious for me. If it looks clear & sparkly to the naked eye, and isn’t too yellow, I’d go for the bigger rock.
P.s. I have size envy sometimes too, but I’m sure your ring is beautiful as is!
Post # 12
I’d go for smaller every time… but wanted to say I hope you liked Brighton!? I studied there and miss it so much!
Post # 13
My ring gets top marks for the 4c’s. My Fiance was really focused on that and he wanted a Canadian diamond so that it was conflict free. However, size was compromised to get this and honestly I love my ring, even if it is a .25. I would love to have a .5 or more and I think the size you have isn’t small at all and is a great size, especially if it is of high quality.
Post # 14
I always believe in quality over quantity. But I don’t think it is required to get a ring that is IF, because you could get a bigger ring that is SI or VS or VVS and it would still sparkle.
I was in the same boat, and I’m not getting the Tiffany I originally thought about, but I am getting a smaller better quality over a larger lesser quality.
But get the ring that makes your finger tingle, and puts a smile to your face just thinking about it. That’s how I decided on my future engagement ring.
Post # 15
Depends on the level of inclusions.
When set in jewelry, if a diamond is eye-clean and near-colorless, that’s all that matters in regards to the clarity and color “Cs”.
The most important “C” is cut. A well-cut diamond will have much more life and sparkle than a diamond not as well cut.
My diamond is an SI1.
Here’s the magnification of it. The arrow points to the single tiny visible inclusion. (Eye-clean.)