Post # 1
Fi and i have started to make our guest lists and have decided on inviting around 60 guests, family and closest friends as we want a smaller and more intimate wedding. I’m more of an introvert with social anxiety so the thought of having a huge affair was extremely overwhelming to me. Fiance is super outgoing and his idea of a great reception is a party with drinking and dancing all night. My idea of an amazing reception would be having a nice sit down meal after our ceremony, no dancing , just great food and drinks with the people we love most. How can we compromise and come up with a reception that doesnt make me feel uncomfortable but also makes Fiance feel like he isn’t missing out on having a great time? Any suggestions would be appreciated, thanks ladies!
Post # 2
Thats a tricky one but i’m with you on the reception, i’m not a big drinker and neither is my Fiance unless there is an occasion so we compramised that he can have his big drink night for his stag and we have a sit down meal instead of party for our reception.
Post # 3
Dainty.doll.13: i think you already did come to a compromise. I say have the small guest list of 60 but have music and dancing for the guest. I suggest getting the first dance out the way right when the you are introduced. If you want to have more of a sit down i suggest not having a sweetheart table especially if your Fiance will be out being a social butterfly. If you have the longer table with your bridal party you can all sit together so it’s not just all eyes on you.
Post # 4
I attended a wedding recently where the bride loves the dance and the groom so obviously does not. They did their first dance together, the last dance, and he joined her one or two times on the dance floor. They took the time to mingle with their guests as a couple, but there were plenty of times she was dancing with friends/family and he was sitting and chatting with guests. It seemed like a perfect compromise. They did have a sweetheart table, but it’s not like he was chained to it. When she was up and dancing, he got up and spent time with guests.
Post # 5
CakeSniffer: That sounds exactly like my daughter’s reception. Bride is a dancer and Groom is a talker. They had a sweetheart table but were hardly ever there. It was great. They both did their thing but did all the couple-y things too.
Love your name btw. I just read the thread about buttercream cakes too.
Post # 6
Between dinner, first dances, toasts, cake cutting, garder toss, mingling and saying your hellos there really isn’t THAT much time for dancing unless your reception is long. I am not a huge fan of dancing either but dont hate it either so I probably danced for a few songs and mostly mingled and the guests that like dancing did that. My husband danced a bit without me, we danced a few together, it was great.