Post # 17
Yes our wedding consultant told us we can return for cash. Maybe look into it at another Bed Bath and Beyond near you? Exchanging for other merchandise is also just as good. Bed Bath & Beyond has everything!!
Post # 18
I think what I would do there is do a small registry, and say to anyone who asks about where you’re registered that it’s there, but that you don’t really need a lot of “stuff” or don’t have a lot of room for new things (as long as that isn’t a total fabrication, of course). Just a thought, and I’m probably going to do something similar.
Post # 19
Honestly I feel silly giving a small cash gift ($30) but I feel a smaller gift is less insulting. I just can’t afford to give everyone $100 or more. As a bride I feel the same way, I’d rather get cash too, but I left small things on the registry for my poorer friends that might hate giving money. Plus, I registered at BBB so they can use coupons and save $$
Post # 20
@SoonToBeMrsMoose: You speak the truth. I am the same way.
Post # 21
I wish I could guarantee that a small registry meant cash gifts… we’re in our 40s and have already combined two households. But my people are just NOT cash people, so I’m afraid that if we don’t register we’re just going to get tons of crap we don’t want/need. So we’ve really worked to figure out what we can upgrade (sheets, towels, some kitchen stuff, etc.). I feel like there’s always stuff you could replace with something nicer.
Post # 22
I WISH there was a nice way to tell guests “Listen, don’t feel like you HAVE to get me anything, but if you do want to give me a gift, then please just give me cash.” LOL. I would never say this, but, really, this registering for things I don’t need is getting ridiculous
Post # 23
@billyjoelfan: how many people are you inviting to your wedding? I would recommend registering with the expectation that at least 75% of the people will give you a gift. This includes the super cheap $5 things. Then start a pitch in card at Best Buy, or something similar so you can still get non traditional items that you could use, but without pressuring people into getting you cash gifts.
The #1 problem I forsee with cash gifts at weddings is how much people can afford. Lots of family and friends may feel like they should give you more than they can afford and don’t want to make it seem like they don’t think you’re gift is worth $100 when in reality they cannot afford $100…so instead they’ll opt for a $50 gift and score with a good sale or coupon. People I’ve talked to say that they would like to base their cash gift on how close they are to someone but if they can’t can’t afford to give them what they deem appropriate, then they’ll just get a gift that the couple has already asked for, even if it is cheap, at least it’s what they’ve expressly asked for. Personally, I would NEVER give anyone $20 cash for their wedding…I just couldn’t do it. I would feel so awkward about giving anything less than $100, but I would have no problem buying a $20, $30 or $60 gift and not spending $100. I think if you register for too few items, you run the risk of getting a bunch of stuff you REALLY don’t want or can’t use (and lots of times without a gift receipt!) and less cash than you’re expecting. At least with registered gifts, you can always return them and get store credit to use at a later date when you do need something. Hope this helps….As I guest, looking for a gift this is how I feel about it.
Post # 24
@billyjoelfan: I was kind of hoping the same thing, I seriously don’t need anythign either and only registered for a few things. The other thing I did, that I hope doesn’t backfire, is I signed up for a honeymoon registry. It allows us the guest to ‘buy’ you an experience, ie dinner with champagne, tour of the island, etc, but ultimately you can cash out and use the money however you want.
Post # 25
We posted on our website our honeymoon plans, and made a statement that said monetary donations toward our honeymoon are welcomed in place of registry gifts. So folks felt as though they were contributing to something, not just giving straight up cash. And, I didn’t feel like the statement was rude, because we talked about what we wanted to do.
Post # 26
I’m a prefer to gift a gift kind of person. But I’ve found people that give a bit of a reason to why they are hoping for cash gifts I’m more likely to give cash.
For example a wedding went to recently explained that they would be having a wishing well for those who would like to participate and they were intending on starting on their house deposit with the money. I can’t remember the exact wording but it made me feel like the money would be really appreciated and would be the best gift I could give them which is altimately what I hope to do in allgifts 🙂