(Closed) Smaller wedding..different decline percentages?

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
2176 posts
Buzzing bee

I invited the exact number of people who would fit in my venue, while logic dictates some people won’t be able to make it, you should plan for everyone to make it. Invited the exact number you have space and money for. YOu don’t want all 125 to say yes and then not have room or be able to afford them. 

Post # 3
1986 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Because we were inviting a smaller amount of people I essentially knew who was not going to show up and was just recieving and obligatory invite.  Everyone who I thought was going to show up did.

Post # 4
935 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

We invited 60 and 50 attended.

Post # 5
79 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I think it really depends on a lot of factors. Do people need to travel? are you close with all these people? Is is a holiday weekend?


We invited 135 and 132 came. The only No RSVP we had were out of state. I would not invite more than you can afford for this reason. We were expecting 20% decline rate but we had far less decline. Luckily we budgeted for everyone.

Post # 6
2183 posts
Buzzing bee

I think it’s generally lower. We ended up inviting about 120 and had 90 attend, but about 20 of those declines were people who we knew couldn’t make it and we invited anyways. If you exclude them, we had closer to a 10% decline. The logic is you are inviting more of your inner circle people and fewer people who wouldn’t mind missing your wedding.

Post # 7
927 posts
Busy bee

2 declines out of 60 guests

Post # 8
2690 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

we had less than 12 declines I believe out of 80 something… it was destination as well

Post # 9
1194 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

MrsD2016:  I invited about 134. We have a total count of 94.

Post # 10
6717 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

I had about 60% attendance, but it was destination for just about everyone except ourselves.  Invited something in the high 60s, got 36 attendees.  we also offered +1s, which only sometimes factored into that high 60s total.  

I’d be leery of inviting more than I could afford – what if everyone accepts?!

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 3 months ago by  skunktastic.
Post # 11
253 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

We invited 50 and 60 attended lol. For us, it was a good problem to have. We were glad so many people could make it on such short notice and most of them lived a few states away.

Post # 12
1553 posts
Bumble bee

We had a veryyy small wedding and only one decline.

I don’t see 125 people as a particularly small wedding, so 20% is still probably about right.

That said, 20% is only a really a ball park figure. You might have way more decline…or everyone might accept.

I’d just make sure you have a back up plan for if all 125 accept (that should really be the actual plan…) and that you can afford it.

Post # 13
257 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Just a tid bit of advice from personal experience.

We invited 135. We invited family from all over the US.

Every. Single. One. Accepted and showed up at the wedding. We thought for sure at least 10 wouldn’t come. Granted we could afford it, we were just shocked no one declined.

Post # 14
1604 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I would never plan on any average decline percentage.  So much is individual.  Are you the first in your generation to marry?  Many out of town relatives may regard it as an opportunity to see others.  Others may think, oh we can combine with vacation.  You never know, but that being said, I would say this.  Your immediate family (of both bride and groom) and closest friends are more likely to come.  So the smaller the wedding, the larger percenatage they will be of total guests.  For example, say you have 25 relatives and absoutely closest of friends.  For a wedding of 50, that means 25 are likely to come, and of the other 25, some may not, so that may result in  a decline percent of (25 not so close invites x .2 percent, or 5 declines/50 invites or 10%).  

Post # 15
192 posts
Blushing bee

We haven’t sent out invitations yet, but everyone from my FI’s side is coming for sure, we just don’t know about plus ones. My side I’m not as sure because half of them live across the country, but together we will have at most 20 nos out of 80 invited people.

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