(Closed) small/private ceremony or suck it up and invite everyone?

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
341 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would do whatever makes you and your Fiance happy.  They decided to throw you a shower even though you are having a small wedding I am sure they do not expect to be invited.  If it is mainly Family and a few of your very close friends I am sure they will not be offended.

Post # 4
1217 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@McFierce:  +1. I think most people are understanding if you tell them you’re having a very small wedding with just family. Do whatever you two want and feel comfortable with! If you would rather not have some coworkers who might be judgmental, then don’t invite them. Just stick to inviting all of them or none, at least if they are all pretty social and gossipy, so you don’t leave anyone out.

Post # 5
2049 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

We had a small wedding (50 people including us). My co-workers threw me a surprise shower 2 weeks before our wedding, but I didn’t invite them to the wedding. Including spouses, my co-workers would have added 27 persons to our small, imtimate wedding. That was not going to work for us, so I made it clear (in a polite, tactful way) that our wedding was small and intimate and we were only inviting family and a few close friends. 

As for the people telling you to just to the courthouse and get married, you can ignore them. It doesn’t matter if its your first or fifth wedding, you and your finace can have any type of wedding you want. Invite the people who you love and who love and support you and make your wedding what YOU and your fiance want it to be.

For the record, this was the second time around for me and my new husband and we thoroughly LOVED our quiet wedding. 

Post # 7
587 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Good luck and congrats!! I read your other comment on a waiting bee’s post and it was really lovely advice. I’m happy to see that you’ve found someone so eager to be with you!

Post # 9
63 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Do what you want. Marriage is about the two of you. It is okay to do a very small ceremony. We have ten people plus immediate family coming. My wedding is at work, so there are many coming but not exactly formal guests.

Post # 10
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

It sounds like a small cermony is right for you. Since the shower was at work, it’s not exactly cut and dry about if you should invite your co-workers or not. Plus, it sounds like you want a small ceremony. Lastly, since your invitations are going out last minute it would probably be best if it’s only those close to you.

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