Post # 1
I have a crazy, racist, OCD neighbor who is such a jerk that the complex has threatened to throw him out numerous times (but never does). He smokes a pipe constantly, right below our door on the balcony and it is all I can do to try to find my key while holding my breath to get in my house and away from the cloying cloud of his pipe tobacco.
I absolutely HATE living near him. It drives me so nuts that in today’s day and age, given all that we know about second hand smoke, we have to put up him smoking like a chimney underneath us. I’m going to talk to my apartment complex again, but they only care if he smokes inside.
I wish there was some way to annoy him in a way that the complex would not enforce that would be as annoying and damaging for him as his smoking is to us. We love our apartment and won’t move, but I find myself wishing for very bad things to happen to him–involving spontaneous combustion maybe?
Post # 3
Walk around your apt in boots and heels all the time.
Post # 4
Well, he pays to live there as well, so he can smoke if he wants to. He’s smoking outside. I mean, c’mon. He’s already being forced to smoke outside, which sucks when it’s really hot or really cold. Seems like punishment enough to me.
Post # 5
I don’t have a solution but totally get here you are coming from. I have a neighbor below me who smokes out his window. His smoke than blows upward and right into my window, in the summer it is terrible. The other day, I went outside and he was smoking right by the door to the basement where I keep my bike. He smokes cigarillos which I feel are stronger than normal cigarettes and the smoke certainly lingers. I’m moving in the fall and I won’t miss him.
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2011 - Sydney, Australia
If the complex itself has made threats – maybe there’s a more formal panel to meet with other residents & sort something out? What about a designated smoking area that’s away from other flats? I don’t know. Smoking indoors was illegal in our UK apartment block – yet our neighbours did it in the HALLWAY, so it always stank. We complained, left them notes… ugh. Super frustrating!
Post # 7
It’s never fun living next to someone whose bad habits annoy you, but that’s part of life in an apartment/condo/townhouse. You just have to deal with it as graciously as possible— which most definitely does not include stomping around in clogs to intentionally make noise. You’ll just start a neighbor war.
My neighbors don’t like it that I smoke outside and the smoke drifts to their house. I don’t like it that they got their six-year-old a drum kit and the noise drifts into my house. Neither of us is moving. We can either fight and feud with eachother, or shut up and deal with it. We’ve chosen the latter.
Post # 8
@Mrs. Bear Cheese Pie:
@fishbone: I agree with both of you.
OP a simple solution would be to move either to your own house or to a complex that has banned smoking. Until it is against the law the man has the right to smoke.
Post # 9
A lot of buildings on my campus banned smoking within 20 feet of all doors and windows. Everyone was happy- smokers got to smoke outside of their buildings but no one had to gag coming in and out of the building.
Post # 10
Sorry, I’m not helpful. I just feel your pain. We live right above the entrance to our building and even though smoking is banned within 20 feet of buildings in Illinois, it still manages to creep up in to our apartment windows.
Post # 11
@justelope: I understand your feelings. Even though, as PPs have said, he’s allowed to smoke outside, that doesn’t mean you have to enjoy it. My neighbors across the hall are always cooking strong-smelling food, and then they prop their door open and it all wafts directly into my apartment. They’re allowed to have their door open, but it still drives me crazy! I wouldn’t recommend doing something to annoy him back though, that would just escalate things. I’d probably chalk this one up to yet another joy of apartment living, although you might want to look into whether people are permitted to smoke so close to the building as @britishbroccoli mentioned.
Post # 12
That really sucks. I have asthma, so it’s a terrible for me when I get caught in that waft.
Post # 13
Ugh, I feel you. Everyone in our building smokes, both inside and out, but the worst are our downstairs neighbours who smoke both cigarettes and pot literally around the clock. We can’t even open our windows.
Post # 14
You’ve probably done this, but have you actually gone down and told him about the situation calmly and politely? Point out how the wind blows and you get the smoke and that you would prefer if he could smoke at different location?
Post # 15
You can also think of a solution before you approach the neighbor. With our neighbors, we installed a ceiling fan on the porch which blows the smoke out towards the street instead of directly towards their house, and while they still get some of the smoke drifty smell, the simple act of wanting to work with them instead of against them has made all the difference. They are more tolerant of our stinky cigarettes and we are more tolerant of their noisy kids. They also feel perfectly comfortable asking us to use one specific porch occasionally, like if they’re having a birthday party for their 2-year-old and expecting tons of kids out back, they ask us to stick to the front porch for the day, and we don’t mind. Despite our mutually annoying habits, we don’t want to hate them or have a war with them.
Look around at the physical structure and see if there’s a better location for your neighbor’s smoke breaks, assuming it’s not something massively inconvenient like asking him to smoke at a bench on the other side of the parking lot. Would a fan help direct smoke away from your window? If you approach your neighbor with something like “We’d love to split the cost of this fan and we can get it from Home Depot for $49” instead of “Stop smoking outside!” then you’re more likely to find a mututally agreeable arrangement.