(Closed) Smoking neighbor is really getting tiresome

posted 6 years ago in Home
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Walk around your apt in boots and heels all the time. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Well, he pays to live there as well, so he can smoke if he wants to. He’s smoking outside. I mean, c’mon. He’s already being forced to smoke outside, which sucks when it’s really hot or really cold. Seems like punishment enough to me.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t have a  solution but totally get here you are coming from. I have a neighbor below me who smokes out his window. His smoke than blows upward and right into my window, in the summer it is terrible. The other day, I went outside and he was smoking right by the door to the basement where I keep my bike. He smokes cigarillos which I feel are stronger than normal cigarettes and the smoke certainly lingers. I’m moving in the fall and I won’t miss him.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011 - Sydney, Australia

If the complex itself has made threats – maybe there’s a more formal panel to meet with other residents & sort something out? What about a designated smoking area that’s away from other flats? I don’t know. Smoking indoors was illegal in our UK apartment block – yet our neighbours did it in the HALLWAY, so it always stank. We complained, left them notes… ugh. Super frustrating!

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

It’s never fun living next to someone whose bad habits annoy you, but that’s part of life in an apartment/condo/townhouse. You just have to deal with it as graciously as possible— which most definitely does not include stomping around in clogs to intentionally make noise. You’ll just start a neighbor war.

My neighbors don’t like it that I smoke outside and the smoke drifts to their house. I don’t like it that they got their six-year-old a drum kit and the noise drifts into my house. Neither of us is moving. We can either fight and feud with eachother, or shut up and deal with it. We’ve chosen the latter.

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper

@Mrs. Bear Cheese Pie:  

@fishbone:  I agree with both of you.

OP a simple solution would be to move either to your own house or to a complex that has banned smoking. Until it is against the law the man has the right to smoke.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

A lot of buildings on my campus banned smoking within 20 feet of all doors and windows.  Everyone was happy- smokers got to smoke outside of their buildings but no one had to gag coming in and out of the building. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Water balloons?

Sorry, I’m not helpful. I just feel your pain. We live right above the entrance to our building and even though smoking is banned within 20 feet of buildings in Illinois, it still manages to creep up in to our apartment windows. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@justelope:  I understand your feelings. Even though, as PPs have said, he’s allowed to smoke outside, that doesn’t mean you have to enjoy it. My neighbors across the hall are always cooking strong-smelling food, and then they prop their door open and it all wafts directly into my apartment. They’re allowed to have their door open, but it still drives me crazy! I wouldn’t recommend doing something to annoy him back though, that would just escalate things. I’d probably chalk this one up to yet another joy of apartment living, although you might want to look into whether people are permitted to smoke so close to the building as @britishbroccoli mentioned.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

That really sucks. I have asthma, so it’s a terrible for me when I get caught in that waft.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Ugh, I feel you. Everyone in our building smokes, both inside and out, but the worst are our downstairs neighbours who smoke both cigarettes and pot literally around the clock. We can’t even open our windows.

Post # 14
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You’ve probably done this, but have you actually gone down and told him about the situation calmly and politely?  Point out how the wind blows and you get the smoke and that you would prefer if he could smoke at different location? 

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

You can also think of a solution before you approach the neighbor. With our neighbors, we installed a ceiling fan on the porch which blows the smoke out towards the street instead of directly towards their house, and while they still get some of the smoke drifty smell, the simple act of wanting to work with them instead of against them has made all the difference. They are more tolerant of our stinky cigarettes and we are more tolerant of their noisy kids.  They also feel perfectly comfortable asking us to use one specific porch occasionally, like if they’re having a birthday party for their 2-year-old and expecting tons of kids out back, they ask us to stick to the front porch for the day, and we don’t mind.  Despite our mutually annoying habits, we don’t want to hate them or have a war with them.

Look around at the physical structure and see if there’s a better location for your neighbor’s smoke breaks, assuming it’s not something massively inconvenient like asking him to smoke at a bench on the other side of the parking lot.  Would a fan help direct smoke away from your window? If you approach your neighbor with something like “We’d love to split the cost of this fan and we can get it from Home Depot for $49” instead of “Stop smoking outside!” then you’re more likely to find a mututally agreeable arrangement.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

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