Post # 1
my co worker is STILL smoking 4 months into the pregnancy. And I feel even more angry about it because she’s also a nurse and KNOWS the effects of this.
i realize it’s not my place to say anything but holy shit it makes me mad every time she does it.
And to top it off she’s not eating right. Thumbs up to eating 5,000 brownies everyday and drinking 600 pops because apparently your baby doesn’t need anything nutritious to develop. I bet she’s gained 35lbs already.
im sorry, this is a total rant but I had to get it out somewhere.
Post # 3
It’s not right but I could see how hard it would be. I quit smoking 6 months ago and I still wake up absolutely craving for a smoke. And seriously, Ive eaten a lot of junk whilst pregnant and I don’t even normally eat that shit. Pregnancy does weird things to you, while it’s probably not a great idea to do the things shes doing it’s not really helpful for you to judge her on it. At least she’s not getting plastered constantly like a friend of mine did whilst pregnant. (Luckily I didn’t know her then)
Post # 4
@marzipanda: wouldnt shock me if she did.
She didn’t want the baby so she’s just acting as if it’s not there…not fair.
I know it’s not helping to judge but I really can’t help it
Post # 5
@Laurenskii: it doesn’t affect you in any way so no sense gettig upset. The smoking obviously is bad but maybe all she can stomac is junk Food. I’ve had weeks where all I could physically stand to eat was French fries. Better than starving. Until you’ve been there you should relax the judgement
Post # 6
I wouldn’t do it but my aunt did for at least one pregnancy and some lady at my job did too (like last yr not in the 70s or something). I guess it’s better that it’s cigs and not crack, but still super shitty. I also never get addicted to things, so maybe I can’t give a good opinion on the nicotine addiction. Another aunt drank with all my cousins apparently, and her kids are ALL kinds of fucked up. I think it’s really selfish!!! Glad my poison of choice is chocolate.;)
Post # 7
Giving up smoking is TOUGH!! Even when you’ve quit, any stressful situation makes it easy to take it up again. I imagine being pregnant when you didn’t wish to be is quite stressful.
Post # 8
@bluegreenjean: I understand that, I really do. But she never even tried and was very vocal about how she wasn’t going to stop and “oh well”
Post # 9
Maybe we should all stop treating pregnant women’s bodies like they are public property. I mean, I no longer smoke, and it is a dirty habit, but this is a feminist issue. I don’t see why we are so critical about other women’s choices all the time.
Post # 10
- Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL
@Laurenskii: My cousin’s gf just had a baby and smoked the entire 9 months she was pregnant. I absolutely loathed going out in public with her because it looks so incredibly trashy! I felt like I was guilty by association because even though I do not smoke, I could feel the judging eyes. I stopped inviting her places just because I didn’t want to see her smoking!
She ended up having a super hard 3 day labor… and on the inside I was kind of like “that’s what you get for smoking the whole time!!” I hope that doesn’t make me too terrible of a person…
She also made a comment about, “My doctor says it will be worse for the baby if I stop smoking” Ummmmm yeah right.
Post # 11
@Laurenskii: I wouldn’t get too upset since there is nothing you can do about it. I’m not a smoker, but my aunt smoked a pack a day when pregnant with my three cousins…One went to MIT, one has a PhD in Neuroscience from UCLA and the other went to Northwestern. It didn’t harm them at all.
Post # 12
@Rachel631: I’m pro choice. However if you choose to keep the baby then at least TRY to treat it right.
Post # 13
@Laurenskii: Ugh! I hope she’s a stupid 18 year old or something!
Just pretending it’s not there is NOT how adults go about dealing with things!
Post # 14
@Laurenskii: Wow, that’s just horrible. I understand it’s hard being pregnant when you do not want to(been there). But if she has decided to carry the baby to full-term she owes it to that little person to give them the best start in life she possibly can.
Post # 15
@FutureDrAtkins: she pulled that line too however she should know better since we’re all nurses.
Its more harmful to quit cold turkey but you should ween yourself off them within the first few months.
When she goes to smoke at lunch we all just look at each other like we want to say something but no one does siiigh.
Post # 16
@BrandNewBride: actually she’s 33 :-/