Post # 1
So my Fiance and I are 22 and plan to buy a house this summer. He works on an ambulance I’m in going to school to be a nurse. Some of my co workers asked when the wedding iI and I said 1.5 years so take our time and enjoy the engagement without stressing. They all gasped and asked why so long and it was so uncomfortable. Our total engagement will be 2 years and while its long I don’t think it’s ridiculously long. Does anyone else have these comments too? 🙁 I feel we aren’t taken seriously. Luckily our families support us:)
Post # 3
I think it’s more “common” for engagements to be a year or less. That being said, you are young and you know what’s best for your engagement and wedding.
Post # 4
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I understand where you’re coming from. All you can do is let it slide off your shoulders. Our engagement will be just under 2 years, but we’re already down to 287 days (I just checked TheKnot lol) it goes by so fast, especially when you’re focused on school. We’re really having fun with just slowly planning and it’s really been a blessing. We’ve found the best deals, had time to really hash out ideas, and there’s been no real stress. Just ignore the haters 🙂
Post # 5
People are douchebags and don’t know how to mind their own business. Like PPs said, you know what’s best for you and your relationship, so brush them haters off. At least your Fiance loves you and your families support you! Many bees don’t even have family support! So I think you’ve got a good thing going. 😉
Post # 6
I had this happen too (doesn’t help we postponed the wedding too) And it is annoying now BUT when you really get into planning (closer around the 1 year mark) Those comments stop.
Having a long engagement actually helped a lot we were able to save more money, Look for deals (like almost half of my venue cost) and now that we are actually really getting into planning we are getting a lot of support and help! A long engagement is not a bad thing at all!
Post # 7
Thanks ladies! Fiance and I are quite blessed with the love and support we have and thanks for all your kind words as well:)
Post # 8
@Firemansgirl: I have a friend that is waiting that long and I don’t think it is weird, she’s in nursing school too. Tell them you wanna be done with school first and they should think that is a mature decision.
Post # 9
It took me a while to realize this, but when my coworkers tell me something I try to take it with a grain of salt! While you can’t exactly limit your contact with them, just don’t talk to them about your plans. They may be just trying to stir up drama where there isn’t any.
Good luck to you!
Post # 10
I personally don’t get long engagements (I found nothing particular to “enjoy” about being engaged – it was just a necessary step toward getting married, which I did enjoy!), but I certainly wouldn’t comment on someone else’s choice. Tactless people.
Post # 11
That is ridiculous! You’d think that being 22 and everything, people would be telling you you’re young and should take your time.. (that’s the spiel I got when I was your age). People are silly: you can’t win!
Post # 12
Don’t feel weird! I am in my last year of nursing school and we are having a 2+ year engagement so do not feel bad at all. You are being smart and responsible and are making a wise decision.
Post # 13
I don’t think that’s long at all! The average length of the engagement in the USA is 15 months and it’s over 18 months in the UK. When you said “long engagement” I was thinking 3-5 years!
Post # 14
I feel ya! We got engaged July 2011 and our wedding is August 23,2013…over two year engagement. Most people understand that my fiancé is finishing mba in NY and our wedding is in CA and that is just what worked best for US. Others have made ignorant comments how we are crazy for waiting so long etc but I just try to ignore it. Everybody’s situation is different and as pp said now we are at 292 days left and it has seriously flown SO fast I couldn’t even imagine having had our wedding this past summer haha enjoy the time you have, cherish the prolonged engagement period, and just ignore the haters, they’re always going to be there!:)
Post # 15
I’ve already been engaged 2 and a half years, and most likely will be engaged for 2 more. Mainly due to my ex husband refusing to get the divorce finalised, and financial issues…which means just not having the money.
My ex husband is being awkward due to the fact he doesn’t want to tell his father we’ve seperated…and we’ve been seperated for over 3 years now. At first I had sympathy, as we split literally the same week his late mother found out she was terminally ill with cancer…I agreed at the time not to say anything so as not to give a dying woman even more upset. But she’s been dead nearly 2 years now…
I think being 44, people are more reluctant to say something about how long we’ve been engaged. Best advice is to ignore it, your Fiance and I obviously have your heads screwed on.
Post # 16
We got engaged in December 2010, and we won’t be married until October 2013. Pretty long engagement.
No one has made snarky comments, although I did get some gentle pressure from my parents (who don’t like me and Fiance living together) asking what we were waiting for.