- 9 years ago
I enjoyed reading this update, so I agree, keep the updates coming! 🙂
I enjoyed reading this update, so I agree, keep the updates coming! 🙂
I have good news and bad news.
The bad news: I am quickly losing control of my patient, controlled, non-obsessive, relaxed exterior in front of my Boyfriend or Best Friend.
The good news: I GET TO GO PICK OUT THE DIAMOND FOR MY ENGAGEMENT RING TOMORROW!!!!!!!
About five weeks ago, we picked out the band I wanted and they just set a diamond in the center to show me what it would look like with a stone. I fell in love instantly. I loved that diamond. Mr. Aberry told me that if I liked that one, that’s what we’d get. About two weeks ago, I was in the jewelry store just to get my right hand ring cleaned and have the diamonds checked since its my grandmother’s wedding set. The girl we’re working with is a family friend, so I asked her about the diamond I loved. It had sold two days prior. Now, I’m not the type to cry over a bad haircut or be bratty enough to need one specific diamond OR ELSE, but I do admit that I was a bit let down. Boyfriend or Best Friend felt worse about it than I did I think, because he’s said he’s sorry about taking so long multiple times. Today during lunch, he called me and asked if I had any plans to stop by the jewelry store. I said no, but I could DEFINITELY make some time. He told me to go pick out a stone I want that is similar to the first diamond I loved. YAYYYYYY!!! I was taking a long lunch break with my mom and sister, so I couldn’t even squeal and bounce up and down in my chair.
Here’s my dilemma…
I want to ask him just how long this diamond is going to have to be waiting at the store, because I don’t want to go fall in love all over again and A) make them hold it for very long and tie up their inventory… or B) come back to find that diamond #2 has also been sold. The logical side of me says that if he is telling me to pick out a diamond, he’s damn close to sealing the deal. The irrational emotional side of me wants to grab him by the face and beg him to tell me how much longer I’m going to have to wait.
I told him earlier in the week that I’m making his favorite rib dinner on Thursday night when he gets back from his work trip. He suggested that I invite my parents over. Hmmm… I cook quite often and he has never suggested that we spend our first night back with each other… with my parents. I’m sure its nothing, and I’m reaching for something to look forward to, but still.
Overall, I’m excited. I’m more than excited, I can barely sit still. Even if we don’t become “official” this weekend, I know its coming soon. It has to. I will lose my mind if it doesn’t. You girls are the only thing keeping me sane these days since I don’t talk to anyone about it. Everyone is expecting us to get engaged. Maybe I have a neon lady-in-waiting sign blinking on my forehead or something, because we get asked about marriage at least once a week. But still… I don’t want to ruin the surprise for everyone. I don’t want people feeling sorry for that poor girl who just wants more than anything to be engaged to her boyfriend. That makes me feel like I’m 12 years old. Close, I’m 25 for another 2 months, but sometimes I still feel like I’m 12.
Thank you for the opportunity to vent, and for giving the support I need to act as though this wait isn’t driving me to drink. I appreciate your guys’ input. I’m less agitated than I was a few weeks ago, mostly because I’ve been reminding myself that this is a good problem to have. I know we are getting married. I just REALLY REALLY want to share it with everyone. The sparkle factor helps too. I just wish it was on my hand! Haha. Honestly, I just want to savor my engagement, not spend half of it wishing I could talk about it. I’m afraid my dad is going to be a bit sad, because he and I are very close. I’m also afraid that my mom is going to be a bit let down that she couldn’t pick out the venue with me. I just couldn’t wait any longer because places were filling up. Hopefully she forgives me. I hope the rest of the wedding planning will overshadow that one decision she wasn’t involved with. I’m sure it will all be fine.
Now, Mr. Aberry… WHEN is it going to happen? Maybe I should ask his sister since she had a random dream that we’d be getting married next August. Spooky. Let me know if any of you girls can predict the future because I’d appreciate a heads up. 🙂
Until then, I’m going to go diamond shopping. Poor me. 🙂
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OK I have to say you are being very good at keeping this in perspective. Although you are really squirming right now, you know that this is a good problem to have.
Going diamond shopping, for a ring you’re going to get, from a man you know will propose is an AMAZING problem to have! I’d love to have that problem 😉
Enjoy it. Won’t be much longer. Ride the high….
I agree with @DreamingBee, you are keeping it all in perspective!! But, like my mother says, “if and when it’s meant to be, it WILL be!!” So, happy diamond shopping and best wishes for dinner and the coming weeks!!
Well… mission accomplished. I picked out the diamond I hope will be in my ring. The ball is in his court now. I’ve done everything I can possibly do to help him… and boy, it was soooo rough. Haha. 🙂 Honestly I haven’t been able to sit still all day. He even told me last night that he was thinking about talking to my dad over dinner tomorrow night, but he’s not sure there will be any time since there will be a few people over here. He is also worried about asking my dad before he has the ring. I told him my dad doesn’t care about a ring, he cares about my future and that I’m happy. I’m thinking he won’t have enough time to get all the ring details figured out by this weekend, but I’m hoping he at least finds some time to talk to my dad. I’m going to have cocktails on hand tomorrow to help the communication flow. 😉 Sneaky, I know. I’m cooking an applesauce cake tonight to keep myself busy. I’ve accepted the fact that there’s nothing I can do to speed up this process, so I should at least try to relax and enjoy it. I’m currently feeling pretty anxious, but at least I’m trying.
Here’s the result of my diamond mission today:
He said it will be this month… and before I left for work today, he said he was going to be “making a call today”!!! I’m so excited! But… he didn’t ask my dad last night. Hm. Dangit. Dinner went well though and everyone had fun. My guess is that it won’t happen until two weeks from now, because that’s the next weekend he’ll be back. He won’t have any time this weekend because I only work until noon today, then we’ll be together the whole time. Unless he wants me to come with… but I doubt it. Why is this so hard on my heart but exciting at the same time? Let’s kill the waiting monster.
You know that scene in Beauty and the Beast where Gaston and his men are pouding down the door with a log to get the Beast? Let’s do that… only with the green monster that DreamingBee posted a picture of. 🙂
Comment from him tonight: “We’ll be talking pretty in depth about your ring this weekend, since my deadline is fast approaching.”
After I picked the diamond, I mentioned to him that the jeweler doesn’t typically keep a diamond on hold for more than a month. He said that’s perfectly fine. It has been a week since the one month deadline was set. The last weekend he’ll be in town this month is the 17th-20th. He’s out of town working until then. That gives him this one weekend in September. We’re going to a fun little town a week from Friday to celebrate his sister’s birthday. I know he wouldn’t do it on her birthday, but maybe that weekend? Dare I get excited?
It HAS to be that weekend! If he said September and that is the only weekend you will see him!!
Oh, I’ve enjoyed reading your story! I can relate in so many ways. I don’t have a ring or official proposal yet, but I still call him my fiance…this summer while we were visiting my parents, he told them (in front of me!) that we’ll be engaged by the end of the year, and he went dress shopping with me, we’ve looked at rings…I’ve actually picked out my dress and we’re going to put the deposit on it this weekend!! But…still no official proposal. I’m like you…I’m getting so antsy and I’m trying really hard not to spend time “guessing” when it will happen and just let it be a surprise, because I think he wants to surprise me…but waiting can be hard!
It was especially tricky earlier in the month when my daughter started 2nd grade and we introduced my Fiance as her “soon-to-be stepdad” to all the teachers and other parents and everyone here in Cookie Cutter Shiny Happy Family Suburbia is shooting glances at my empty ring finger and giving me that look. 😉
Sorry, didn’t mean to hijack your thread! 🙂 I hope that your official proposal comes soon! And your ring is beautiful.
@carolinabee: I sure hope so! I’m trying to be patient, but I almost feel like laughing at myself when I’m like, “aberry, just be patient… you know it’s coming, it’s just a matter of when.” …because I feel like HE’S the one who has been encouraging my insanity. He tells me every day (I’m not exaggerating) that we’ll be officially engaged before I know it, and getting me excited by saying, “are you sure you’re ready?” … which he says with a bratty smile on his face because that’s the equivalent to asking a puppy if he wants a treat. Duh.
@tarheelgrad98: I’m happy my rantings haven’t gotten so long and drawn out that nobody can bear to read them! Haha 🙂 We’ve definitely in a very similar boat with our engagement situations. I keep reminding myself that it’s not like we haven’t decided on a date and started planning. We’re definitely engaged… but it is such a strange feeling to be excited and be making big wedding decisions IN SECRET. It’s bittersweet. How was dress shopping? Did they treat you strangely since there was no ring? I have a friend who lives out of state that knows my situation, just because I know she wouldn’t tell anyone, and she has been telling me to just go look at dresses since we’re now less than a year away from the big day. I’m going to wait because I want my sister and my mom to be there, but I definitely had considered going before the “official” proposal.
I guarantee you’re happier than some of those women in shiny cookie cutter suburbia. 🙂 It will probably bug them more that you’re happily enjoying your pre-official engagement and that your daughter has two parents there to be with her on her first day of school. I know a lot of women that have to do all that stuff alone. Pretty soon you’ll have all that AND a ring on your finger! 🙂 Then they can take their snarky looks and stuff it.
@DreamingBee: Hopefully you and I both will kill that stinky green monster soon! You’re pretty close too! I’m really looking forward to next weekend, but I’m trying to not get my hopes up AGAIN. Sometimes I wish we could just fast forward through all the formality stuff and just magically wake up on Aug. 21, 2011… the day AFTER we get married. Minus the inevitable hangover. I know that’s crazy too, because I really am excited to celebrate and dance with all our families and friends at the wedding.
I feel like the time is going even more slowly this weekend, because I’m house sitting for my parents and I’m all alone minus my dog and the kitten my dad got my mom for a 30th engagement present. 🙂 He’s VERY cute but doesn’t have a name yet, so he’s going to think his name is “kitty”. I found a channel that is playing old cartoons like the Smurfs, the Snorks, and Scooby Doo, so between the cartoons and the kitten hopefully I can keep my mind off of waiting.
It won’t be much longer…hang in there! I’m so excited for when you finally get your proposal from the love of your life, and that beautiful ring to go along with it. I agree it probably will be that weekend if it’s the only time you’ll see him this month.
@DreamingBee: I just replied to your thread, but I just want to say again, I’m sorry this happened to you. I hope your time apart serves as a wake up call to him, but if it doesn’t, you’re the one with your priorities in order. I see in my crystal ball that happiness is in your future, hehe. Keep posting and remember that we’re all here for you! *hugs!*
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