(Closed) Snow Wedding.. when half the family hates snow

posted 4 years ago in Family
Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

bbaugh08:  Is eloping or having a private ceremony an option you’ve considered? You could have the dream wedding you want, where you want, when you want. And you could always have a celebration for family and friends to attend later in the spring or summer. Best of both worlds really. I only suggest that because that’s what my Darling Husband and I did. We wanted a winter/icy wedding, but didn’t want winter travel conditions to affect anything. So we eloped to Alaska during the spring and got married on a glacier. After the ceremony we returned to our cruise ship and enjoyed our honeymoon in 60 degree temperatures. We had a celebration for close family and friends in June when we returned, so it all worked out well.

It’s just a thought. It’s worked out to be the best option for us, but every situation is different.

Post # 17
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I have to agree with the others.  I would never ask my family and guests to “tough it out” for my wedding.  

What if you got your engagement photos in the snowy area that you desire?  I have seen a lot of wintery engagement photos with snow and they’re awesome. (Thinking that for myself when I get engaged)  Have your wedding at a locale that makes it easier for your guests or else I think you’re going to have many more declines than you’d like.

Post # 18
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Helper bee

If the location and snow is so important to you then maybe you should consider eloping in the mountains then later have a party at a place and time that your families and friends would be able to attend without risking their safety. 

 

Really, when you invite guests their safety and comfort should be top priority. I would never risk travelling in bad weather to attend a wedding. My safety is far more important than a party.

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I HATE Snow but if my family was getting married outside in a blizzard you bet your snowman I’d be there.  I probly compain behind your back and tease you about it later but I’d be their happily.  Just saying.

Post # 20
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

I would never ask my family or friends to drive in unsafe conditions for my wedding. Driving up a mountain pass can be seriously dangerous in the winter, especially if people are from out of town and don’t have experience with driving in the snow. And what are they supposed to do if the road is closed? And Jacquelinesc84’s response is exactly why I would have a problem with this plan – people are going to try even harder than normal to be there for a wedding and potentially be out in dangerous conditions they wouldn’t normally go out in. I wouldn’t want to put my guests in the position to even have to make that decision.

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Can you compromise and find a venue that has a similar vibe to it where people don’t have to drive through the mountains?

I had a winter wedding as well in show country. Almost everyone who RSVPed yes were able to make it. It ended up being a beautiful day, but that is very difficult to predict. 

ETA: Not saying you have to have the wedding at a hotel, but it would be wise to have it close by to hotels so that if the weather is bad then guests don’t have to drive that night.

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Post # 22
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

What happens if you can’t make it to your own wedding?  What happens if its not crazy weather but the roads are closed for avalanche control?

My husband and I drive in mountain passes all the time because we like to go snowmobiling.  There’s been several times when the weather was nice only to turn into blizzard of the century mid-drive and we’ve had to wait it out on he side of the road or turn back.  I would never want my friends and family to take the risk of driving through those passes for my wedding.  Chances are most won’t have the experience obtained by driving those passes in winter regularly.  Do all of your guests have winter tires and 4wd?  I’ve seen some pretty terrible accidents in the winter in the mountains and if people aren’t comfortable it makes it even more dangerous.

Post # 23
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

The good thing about invitations is that they can always say no.  We are having a winter wedding and to get there almost everyone has to drive through mountain passes.  Wwe invited 55 people and only 20 are coming.  We knew going into this that very few people would come, and we were alright with it.  Those that feel comfortable will say yes and those that don’t will say no. 

This IS your day and you can do whatever you want if you are footing the bill.  You DO NOT have to think about all your extended family and their needs if you don’t want to.  An invite is all they need, if they want to risk a pass its is their desicion, not yours.   If they don’t then the descision is still theirs and not yours.

I would recomend treating your geusts to a great wedding once they do arrive though.

Post # 26
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

my life and safety > attending anyone’s wedding. having driven through snow and knowing how treacherous it can be, i would not ask people to put their lives in danger just so i can have a dream venue. if the venue matters more than people being there, then go with your dream wedding. for me, i care more about people being there, so i’d have a wedding that’s comfortable for my guests.

Post # 27
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

It sounds gorgeous! But, you’d have to be prepared for the possibility that some much wanted people may not be able to attend. Are there people–maybe elderly or of limited mobility–that may not be able to get to the wedding because of an inability to drive in the snow? That’s more than just “hates the snow.”

We ended up having a slightly similar situation. Where I grew up (and where my parents obviously wanted the wedding) is a coastal destination. Yes, it’s a gorgeous place, but they were primarily concerned about THEIR convenience–not that of the other 125 or so guests. Hurricane season was a major factor–we didn’t want to get married between December and May, nor did we want to risk having our guests’ flights cancelled. The airports that serve my hometown are primarily regional airports, with small planes that will get grounded fairly quickly. So, we ended up picking a place far from my hometown, but a place that’s convenient for the majority of our guests–particularly the elderly ones or the ones with limited mobility. 

Best of luck! 

Post # 28
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

We are getting married in the Colorado mountains. Neither of us can imagine it any other way. My family and friends are from Tx… And most have never been in snow.

We are having a guest list of about 80. His side is from Co so they’re used to the weather. What we are doing is getting my peeps to drive / fly into Denver then we will drive them into the mountains (2 hrs) to stay for the weekend. I think this is the only way we can do it. Rent a biggo van or small bus and make it a weekend thing.

Post # 29
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I wouldn’t make a drive over a mountain pass in the winter for something like a wedding for anyone but immediate family and even then I wouldn’t be thrilled. It can get quite dangerous, and I wouldn’t feel safe or comfortable. 

Couldn’t you have a winter honeymoon instead? If you want your wedding to be 100% about you and not have to worry about considering anyone else, I’d recommend eloping.

Post # 30
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Aside from the great points that pp’s have made As a bride I would be asking myself if it was fair to ask out of state guests to pay for pricey (as it always is in peak season) snow accommodations which they may not even be able to reach due to closures, nevermind the cost of airfares to not even attend the wedding. 

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