(Closed) So, A Friend Just Got Engaged and Now I Might Not Get Into Heaven…

posted 11 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
53 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

aww i’m sorry…I know EXACTLY how you feel!!!  Our best friends got engaged two weeks before us!  Little did I know that my ring was sitting in the safe in our apartment.  You never know…maybe he’s got something planned, which is why he feels a little bitter right now. 

Even if it’s tough, try to be really happy for your friends, and show your Fiance that you’re not bothered.  If you downplay it, maybe he will too.  No matter what, when you get engaged it’ll be even more special 🙂

Post # 4
5822 posts
Bee Keeper

I’m sorry!  Maybe it’s ruining your hunny’s night too?  Like maybe it’s ruining his timing?  I get where your coming from, just let yourself feel it tonight, then let it go tomorrow!

Post # 6
5262 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

Your post title made me laugh. Save me a margarita poolside?

I’m sorry, though, I know it’s tough. I originally had a really hard time when Future Sister-In-Law got both engaged and married before we got engaged, because we started dating before they did. 

Post # 7
1525 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

rolling over and playing dead? aaaahahahahahahahaaha i love it!

Sorry for ur sticky situation tho hon! Keep ur head up

Post # 8
13561 posts
Honey Beekeeper

It happens to the best of us. I’ve had those moments, too.

Post # 9
384 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Same here… lol I totally get you on this. A gf of mine got engaged a couple of weeks after me then the other one is prego. I just wanted to savor the moment.. alone 🙂 just for a while…


Post # 10
603 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Haha I had this happen to me and I came on here to rant..I felt like suuuch a bitch but I really was happy for my newly-engaged friends. Its a natural reaction..they got something you’ve been wanting soo bad and there is nothing you can do about it. IT SUCKS! Ive been on pins and needles this week b/c i have a feeling 2 of my sorority sisters are going to be engaged this week..one has very mysterious facebook statuses about her vacation this week, the other was SURE she was getting engaged on her spring break cruise..only time will tell! And as hard as I try NOT to get upset, Ill catch the envy bug lol. JUST HANG IN THERE!!

Post # 11
2530 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I felt this way when FIs best friend got engaged 6 months before we did….and we had been together a lot longer!! I was happy for them but at the same time I was PISSED!!! Especially since when he called his mom to tell her about it she said “When are you going to propose!?” And I was like YEAH REALLY! It didnt happen until 6 months later but for a little while there I was definitely a little irritated!

Post # 12
1560 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Ooooh you are SO not alone in this boat. I have been through that WAAAAY too many times…I have friends who have been married for over a year and a half who started dating AFTER my SO and I did. Yeah…no pressure, right? My frustrating story (I’m turning this post into my vent apparently, haha):

This morning at church (we have our date set, and of course the priest knows, but the congregation doesn’t!) well there was a couple we hadn’t met yet and my SO’s mom introduced me as his fiancee…welllll…then everyone was staring at my empty hand and asking me all sorts of questions about “When is the big day?!” “Why no jewelry?!” GAH! It really put me in a bad mood. How bad is that? Something in church put me in a bad mood…oops :/

Post # 14
665 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

It happens to the best of us… and it will pass. Don’t beat yourself up.

Post # 15
2410 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Aww, I think most people who are waiting feela twinge of this from time to time. I met one of SO’s really good friends for the first time this weekend, and her BF randomly proposed in front of everyone. Even though I just met her for the first time that day, I still felt a twinge, so you are definitely not alone in feeling the way you do!

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