- 4 years ago
So, my partner and I were talking the other day about how we would raise our kiddos, and some differences came up. I don’t think these are big things, but I wanted to ask what you guys thought…
1. He doesn’t want our kids to watch Disney movies. He thinks that a lot of them end in death, and doesn’t want our kids to be exposed to a dying loved one until old enough. I thought that this was odd, but to each their own. I had never given that a thought when it comes to Disney, but I can see where he’s coming from?
2. He does not believe in any religion, but he will go sit at church with me and our future kids just so we appear as a family unit. I told him I don’t want him to go unless he believes, because then I feel like he is misleading our kids into thinking he’s something he is not. Might be a bit extreme for me to say, but it’s true. I know he doesn’t want to be there, and for him to sit in the house of my Lord when he doesn’t have any religious bone in his body just seems fake?
3. No happy meals until they are in their teens. Okay, I get why he would say this, but come on! As a kid, after a soccer game, we went and got our nuggets and happy meal toy. I don’t see why every once in a while we can’t do that for them.
4. He wants private school for our kids. This is understandable, however I went to public school and I loved it. My friends who went to private school didn’t like it so much, and although most of those kids got into better colleges, I came out of public school with long-term friends and a better grasp on common sense. I have no problem against private school, but why pay all that extra money when you can have them go to public school and have a much more ‘grounded’ experience?
5. He doesn’t want them to pay for their own college. This is every parents dream – for their child to coast through college debt free. However, I am paying my way through college. My parents paid for my first semester of community college and I didn’t even go. I didn’t appreciate what they were giving to me. Now that I am paying my own way, I have yet to get below a “B” in any class and I am more responsible for it.
6. Same with a car, he doesn’t want them to have to pay for their first car. Like I said about college, I paid for my own cars, insurance, gas, etc and held it at a higher value than if someone were to pay for it for me.
I guess these things are that big of a deal, but it rubbed me the wrong way. I don’t want my kids to grow up at spoiled brats and I want them to fall on their ass a time or two growing up to learn life lessons. Is it just me? Are these a bigger deal than I think, or are these things that will adjust as we go through them together as a family?