Post # 32
- Wedding: August 2012 - Sunset Harbour
So then he’s turning 21? I can sorta kinda understand that he would be a lil upset not being able to have a big night on his actual birthday, but he can always get together with his friends the next weekend. You would think he would be more interested in his brothers wedding then going out and getting drunk with his buddies.
Post # 33
- Wedding: May 2013 - Kempinski San Lawrenz, Gozo
nope he’s turning 22. He’ll be turning 21 this year. He had told me that if we were getting married THIS year, he’d never speak to us again.
Yeah, that’s what hurts the most – the fact that he doesn’t give a shit about his brother getting married.
Post # 34
Knowing it was his birthday, if he wouldnt have been such a twat from the get go I would’ve bought hiim a birthday cake or something! But damn, I’d take the original date back….no cake for him
Post # 35
My daughter (she will be 8), wanted us to get married on her birthday!! We’re doing it the day after. But if SHE can be mature about it….
Post # 36
Seriously??? Two of my friends (I was both their moh) got married on their brothers brays. Well, one was bil, but same. The bil was 20, turning 21 and was sooo excited his first day of legal drinking would be all the free booze he could dream of. Kid needs a nut punch.
Post # 37
It is ridiculous. There will be more birthdays, I’m sure! Your wedding day is just taking place on one of them… who cares?! In life, not all birthdays are all about the birthday boy/girl. Sometimes people have to work on their bday, miss out, etc. He’ll be fine!
Post # 38
Seriously just how old is he? If he’s under 10 well ok but any older and something’s seriously wrong with him. What adult cares sooo much about his birthday he has a tantrum. Ok I just went back and read that he’s 21, it’s still immature as heck!
Post # 39
Thats the crazyest thing I’ve ever heard…looks like he would be excited to celibrate his birthday on the most inportant day of his Brothers life…CRAZY!!
Post # 40
I agree with this. His birthday is not the only thing going on in the world on that day. He either gets over it or shame on him.
Post # 41
Ok so here is the thing I can see both sides. If it is his 21st then I agree perhaps this is taking away from him. He is young and you will have an anniversary for the rest of your life. When my Fiance was younger (14) his uncle married on his bday… It ruined it for him until he was about 23. So I get the Future Brother-In-Law. I also understand your side. Why did you pick this day? can you explian that to him? Have you thought about pushing it out by a week or something? We are getting married on my Fiance grandma’s bday and will be doing a special shout out to her. We are getting her a sash and putting candles in her cake (we are having cupcake centerpieces) Perhaps you can make a moment about him too? I think that there needs to be some compromise on this and that you shouldn’t just write him off. Also remember that younger (under 23) can still be going through some development and have hot head moments. You just saying you don’t give a damn will not solve this but if you try agian to have a civil conversation and Future Brother-In-Law blows up again then just forget it and hell don’t even invite him.
ETA just saw you said he would be turning 22, that means you have time. He probably cant see past his 21st… keep your date and in the meantime im sure he will be able to mature.
Post # 42
Unless he’s young enough to be the ring bearer, Future Brother-In-Law needs to shut his mouth. Seriously. His 22nd birthday isn’t celebrated at my house, so it’s not the national holiday he believes it to be. 😉
Since you don’t want the date anymore anyway due to the heat, no biggie, but dang, that kid’s ridiculous. I get the not wanting to miss your BFF at the wedding, but I think you and Fiance need to make a ‘MUST CHECK’ list (grandparents, parents, siblings *annoying or not*), clear their conflict dates and go from there. It’s very likely that not everyone that you love will be available on the same date :-/ I hope that you find one that works for you two and your core people, and that Future Brother-In-Law can grow up ASAP.