(Closed) So angry…

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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1297 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2017 - Seattle, WA

Aw, I’m sorry!!  That is really crappy, I would be so disappointed!  Guys can be so clueless sometimes.  🙁

Post # 4
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717 posts
Busy bee

that is really crappy, i’m sorry!  I would be livid too if I got those gifts.  like, really, no effort?  after you’ve calmed down, speak with him about why this upset you and is clearly not ok.  it’s not about spending $$$$ on gifts but the thought and effort. 

Post # 6
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246 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@newcitylights:  I really hate to see this, but why are you still with him if he pisses you off this much? I keep seeing all these posts of cheap-ass lazy SO’s and their women coming on here to post about how if they don’t get a ring soon, it’s over.

I’m sorry, if he won’t spring for a Christmas gift, how do you think you’re going to wring a ring out of him? 

Post # 7
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717 posts
Busy bee

@newcitylights:  about him saying “oohh she’s angry”, was he going out of his way to upset you?  because he’s admiting it looks bad and knew you were upset and instead of being contrite, he’s mocking you?  What o_O  take some time for yourself, absolutely, andmaybe he’ll figure out what on earth he was thinking…

Post # 11
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3248 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@newcitylights:  I’m dismayed by both the rude and inappropriate “gift”-giving and the audible aside to your sister. I’m sorry, but what a jerk. Is he always like this? If he is, I’d seriously reconsider spending time on him. 

The spending $1000 on a gun for himself and then doing that for your “gifts” makes this WAY worse. How selfish!! 

Has stuff like this happened before? Beware of patterns of behavior– I say 3X and it’s a pattern that probably won’t end. 

Good for you for going on that trip with your friend, without him. Sounds like some time away would be good for you, and allow you to blow off some steam and think about this. And hopefully give him time to realize that he was being a jerk, and find something really nice for you!

Post # 12
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5965 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

Oh hell no…that just doesn’t happen….EVER.  I whole heartedly endorse getting away for a night, because that is shitty, and he knows it, and you are giving him a great opportunity to fix it, by leaving. 

Everyone makes mistakes, and suffers from errors in judgement, it’s what we do to make amends for those moments that defines us as people. Hopefully your fella figures out that he screwed the pooch and gets with the program, otherwise toss him back, he’s not worth the trouble.

One of the most epic fights Mr. 99 and I had was over a Valentine’s Day gift, he asked me what I wanted, I showed him a very affordable necklace and his rather snarky reply was, “You already have a necklace, I bought it last year!”

I heard a thousand piano strings breaking inside of my head and I finally just snapped, “I only get ONE necklace huh?  Just one for the rest of my life, unless I buy it for myself?  Well, I guess you only get ONE rifle, and ONE dog, and ONE meal out a year because apparently we’re just so god damned broke around here, we gotta pinch pennies and stretch dollars….you asshole!”

Needless to say, I got the necklace, and Mr. 99 got the lesson, generosity, kindness and consideration are all you ever need to live a happy and peaceful life in our house, anything less gets you called an asshole and locked out for the night.

Post # 13
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246 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@newcitylights:  I hope you are. Sounds like he requires someone with a lot of…. patience. Personally I have an ex just like him. The reason he’s an ex should be obvious just from this post. 

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@newcitylights:  I’d find ANYTHING to do tonight that gets you out of the house, not to punish him, but to give you some space and him some time to figure it out how awful he made you feel.

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