(Closed) So ANGRY! Friend copied my wedding invitations! Need Advice PLEASE!

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Would you be pissed off and would you talk to her about it?

    Not angry

    Angry and would talk to her about it

    Angry but would NOT talk to her about it

    Not angry but would talk to her about it

  • Post # 18
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Who cares….take it as a comliment and move one….Life is short! If this is the biggest problem at your wedding you should count your blessings!

    Post # 19
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I meant this comment as a good empowering way….you rock….let her love your ideas!

     

    Post # 20
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    this sounds like it goes beyond using yours as an inspiration — yeah, I’d be seriously annoyed. 

    Post # 21
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Do you have a picture of hers and yours? I would like to see how different or similar they are.

    Post # 22
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

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    @ttn133:  oh yes, I would love to see that too!

    Post # 23
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I would call it weird — definitely weird! But NOTHING I’d be angry about. When people buy invitations (as opposed to DIY) there are other people with the same invites out there in the world. I don’t know, maybe you should start up a business?

    Post # 24
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I’d be livid! but thats probably because the invitations were one of the most important parts of the wedding to me.

    Whos wedding is first?

    Post # 25
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 1991

    Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery, IMO! ๐Ÿ™‚  Kudos to you for creating something that others wanted too.  Sure, it’s probably a bit deflating in a sense because you put SO much work into them and you don’t want others to think that she came up with those ideas, when it was really you. Totally get that… but in the grand scheme of life, I think it’s not something to waste time being upset over. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Do you have much guest overlap?  I can’t imagine you have totally identical guest lists, so your guests probably won’t even see hers, right?  Problem solved!

    ETA:  I also wanted to say that I admire you taking constructive criticism well!!  I’ve seen so, so many ‘vent’ posts where the OP didn’t really want to hear what was being offered to them and got really defensive.  Again, kudos to you for not doing that!!  Sometimes it really does take an objective third party’s perspective and I have to admire you for your reaction to the PP’s advice ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 26
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I could understand you feeling frustrated because A. You did take the time to research and really put time and effort into them until you had a nice finished product and she got the same results with zero effort B. I think her making the same invites isn’t the annoying part- I think it’s more annoying she didn’t contact you and say “Hey I really love your invites and just wanted to check in and see if it were ok if I did the same but put it into my color scheme-” Ya know give you the credit.

    Plus side: Your’s was received first so any mutual guests will see that they were yours to start with. Also, they are only invites that will get tossed in the trash- Its a sad thought but us brides put so much effort into detail when in all reality, not many appreciate the time we put into all these things. I used vista print..haha..my friend used vista print and we did the same.

    Post # 27
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    Busy bee

    My best friend is not artsy craftsy at all!  If she asked me how to do something…I would expect her creation would look like a replica of mine.  I think you need to realize that your friend wasn’t trying to annoy you but to make her invitations look as lovely as yours do!  You taught her how to do what you did, but probably didn’t show her variations on your version, so she just did what you showed her.  The only reason I think you could be extremely upset is if her invitations are being sent out prior to yours and to the exact same group of people!  But personally, I think her friendship ought to outweigh the offense! 

     

    Post # 29
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    Wannabee
    • Wedding: January 2013

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