(Closed) So angry right now I’m shaking…..

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

As cliche as it sounds, honesty is the best policy. You can be honest and real with him without freaking out, even though I’m sure you feel like raking him over the coals. Tell him how much it hurt both you and your cousin and ask him why he brought it up so many times. You need to be able to talk about anything and everything with your SO, so even though it’s an awkward situation, it’s one that needs to be addressed. 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I don’t think it sounds stupid at all. I’m much better at expressing my ideas in writing, so I actually do this whenever I’m having a big conflict with someone, whether it’s SO or someone in my family. 

I agree it was in very poor form, but if you just start yelling at him and telling him it was rude, he’s going to get defensive and shut down. Believe me, I state this from experience. 🙂 Our marriage counselor stressed “fair fighting” when you are upset with one another, which means no name-calling, no swearing, no yelling, and no storming off mad whenever you’re having a confrontation. So be real, be honest, and be truthful, but don’t be MEAN. Good luck!! Try to cool off while he’s not at home and deal with it tonight.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Ms.Shamrock: It happens. As humans, we are going to disappoint one another. It’s all in how we handle it when we hurt people we love. Find me one couple who has never fought about stuff like this and I will find them a million dollars. 😉

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